Most relationships don’t come to an end suddenly. There’s always a stage when things start to fade and you’re left wondering if it’s all in your head or if he’s really going cold on you. It’s an awful place to be in, but before you worry yourself to death, there are signs you can look out for to help you figure out whether he’s lost interest in you and the relationship.
- He no longer calls or texts you. I know life happens sometimes and causes people to be incommunicado for a while. But if he’s not going through anything and still can’t find time to talk to you, that’s a sign that he no longer craves you the way he used to.
- He’s spending less and less time with you. We all know that when you really like someone, you want to spend as much time with them as possible. It increases intimacy and helps you know them better. Maybe you always used to spend the weekends together or had special date nights but now he keeps bailing and making excuses to get out of seeing you. This could be an indicator that he’s losing interest.
- He’s constantly irritated by little things you do. When I lost interest in the last person I was seeing, everything he did began to annoy me even things that had delighted me in the past. His facial hair became too prickly. I started to hate the way he walked into every room like he belonged there. I couldn’t stand the way he laughed. It’s no different for guys, so if you’ve been getting on his nerves a lot lately, you might want to pay attention to what he’s not saying.
- He compares you to other girls. It’s an absolute mindf**k to have things about you be compared to someone else and declared wanting. No one wants to make the person they care about feel like crap. Maybe the reason he’s putting you down, criticizing you a lot, or drawing comparisons between you and other girls is because he no longer feels as strongly about you as he used to.
- He doesn’t want to flirt with you any longer. You can always tell how much chemistry is left in a relationship by how much the couples flirt with each other. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together, he should still give you compliments, sweet talk you, and do those little things that make you feel attractive and desired. Otherwise, it could mean the spark is dead for him.
- The physical intimacy between you is suffering. When a guy starts losing interest in you, it’ll manifest in his physical interactions with you. Pay attention to his body language when he kisses, hugs, cuddles, or even makes love to you. He might even be reluctant to engage in these things altogether.
- Selfishness is starting to become his motto. The fact that your guy has become more self-centered and inconsiderate in his interactions with you can be a good sign that he has lost interest. It could be anything from only paying attention to his needs in bed to no longer caring about your life and the things that affect you.
- You’re always the one to initiate. Are you always the one texting or calling first? Have you been carrying most of the responsibility of getting the relationship to work lately? If you stopped making an effort would everything drift to an end? Compare his actions now to the way he used to be before. Has there been a drastic decline? If you’re always the one making first contact or trying to make plans for the both of you, that a huge sign that into you anymore.
- Talking about other guys has no effect on him. Maybe you tried to see if you could make him a little jealous by mentioning some other guy that has been coming on to you lately and he didn’t even bat an eyelash. A guy who is still interested in you is going to have a reaction to you bringing up other guys because he doesn’t want to lose you.
- He has stopped taking an interest in your life. You probably recall how curious he was to know all about you in the beginning. He always asked about your work, friends, even how your day was, but now he no longer does. Taking you for granted and not making an effort to keep up with your life is a sign that his interest in you has waned.
- Your gut is telling you that the momentum is gone. If you can’t seem to shake the feeling that the relationship is on the rocks and that his feelings towards you have changed, it’s probably because it’s true. As long as you’re being honest with the facts as they are, your gut is likely right.
