Here’s How To Make Sure You Never Date Another Terrible Guy

You’re legit open to love, but no matter how hard you try or how much you put yourself out there, you keep ending up with complete jerks. Are you seriously that unlucky in love or have you just made some bad decisions? It doesn’t really matter — what matters is that you do everything in your power to never date another loser again.

  1. Set high expectations. Setting the bar so low might give you more guys to choose from, but are most of them even worth it? Raise your expectations so you can stop wasting your time and actually find someone worthwhile.
  2. Learn from your mistakes. You can’t blame every unsuccessful relationship on the other person. You need to stop pointing fingers and reflect on your own mistakes. What things have you done wrong in your past relationships, and what behaviors of his did you overlook or let slide? The only way to be smarter in love is to open your eyes and stop repeating your mistakes.
  3. Be confident. When you have low self-esteem, you’re pretty easy prey for players. Confidence is the courage to turn down Mr. Wrong because you won’t settle for anyone less than Mr. Right. Stop letting losers take advantage of your low self-confidence and demand better.
  4. Stop handing out unlimited chances. There’s a time and place for second chances, and not every guy deserves them. Fooled once, shame on him, fooled twice shame on you. Some mistakes are just too big to forget. It’s not about holding onto anger, it’s about letting go of a man who treats you like you’re nothing.
  5. Find your self-worth. How are you supposed to find the love that you deserve if you don’t even think you deserve it? You need to stop relating your self-worth to your relationship status and start demanding the respectful love every woman wants, needs, and deserves.
  6. Pay attention to the red flags. Stop ignoring what’s right in front of your face. You see all the warning signs, but you give every loser more than the benefit of the doubt. You can’t justify or excuse his bad behavior. Hold him accountable for his actions, present and past, or you’re just letting another heartbreaker go free.
  7. Call out the BS. If a man wronged you, he shouldn’t get away with it scot-free. What he needs is to be called out for his complete and utter disregard for your feelings. If you can’t tell him off, then he’s never going to learn. Just like bad kids get a time out, this bad boy needs a stern talking to.
  8. Respects your besties’ honest opinion. Why can’t your friends tell you if they hate your new guy? It’s complete BS that we have to lie to each other out of fear that our besties will shoot the messenger. If your new guy is trouble, your girls shouldn’t be shot down for giving you the heads up.
  9. Listen to your intuition. That gut feeling that something about this man just isn’t right? Yeah, that shouldn’t be ignored. If he walks like a loser and talks like a loser, he’s probably a loser. So listen to your head and tell your heart to get a clue, because you’re too good another man’s basic BS.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.