How To Leave Him Wanting More So He Chases You

You might not realize that you’re coming on too strong and making a guy run away from you instead of towards you. Ladies, it’s time to check your behavior. It won’t hurt to make him miss you – in fact, it will work to keep him interested so he chases you. Otherwise, you’ll be the one doing all the work and getting nothing in return. And no, in case you’re wondering, this isn’t about playing mind games with him. It’s about showing him that you’re a woman of value. Here are 10 easy ways to leave him wanting more so he chases you.

  1. Say goodbye before the awkward silence. You know when you’re chatting to a guy on the phone and then that awkward silence descends? This totally zaps the chemistry between you. So try to make sure that you always end the call before you both start running out of things to say. That way, you end the chat on a high note and you definitely leave him wanting more.
  2. Don’t text him first all the time. Even though you miss him or want to share something interesting that happened to you with him, you shouldn’t always text him first. It makes him stop making an effort and become lazy because he doesn’t have to do anything to get you to keep the relationship or interest going. Don’t get stuck trying to carry him along. It’s draining!
  3. Show him that you’re having fun without him. While it’s totally transparent to post tons of selfies of yourself smiling and looking like you’re having the best time of your life, especially if you only do this when he’s online, it never hurts to show him that you have a fun, satisfying life. Post a few pictures of stuff you’re doing or drop into conversation that you’re busy with friends/following your passion/building your empire.
  4. Avoid telling him everything. If you want to leave him wanting more, this is vital. You meet for the first time and he tells you that he wants to know every damn thing about you because he’s clearly so smitten with you, but you know what? He doesn’t want the complete story. Much like reading a juicy book, it’s fun when the author doesn’t reveal everything in the first chapter. He/she should keep you intrigued and wanting more by giving you a bit of info at a time. Try that with the guy you’re dating so you only reveal a few nuggets of juicy information about yourself and what you’re about.
  5. Be busy when he asks you out. You can’t always be hanging around waiting for him to call. Come on! This is especially the case when he calls you up totally spontaneously and wants to meet for dinner. Show him that sometimes he’s got to make plans (at least a few hours beforehand) because you’re not waiting for him. FYI, canceling his plans once in a while is also valuable to show you how he reacts. If he throws his toys around and acts like a total man-toddler, that’s a red flag. Head for the door.
  6. Give him a kiss but nothing else. This is the perfect way to leave him wanting more. You don’t have to wait until you’ve been on a few dates to have sex if you want to jump into his bed right away. But, there is something to be said about having a slow burn to the romance. It builds up beautifully and makes the big event so much more interesting. He’ll be craving you – and eager to move through relationship milestones.
  7. Keep it light but hint subtly. It’s never good to flirt too much as it comes across as desperate. But, you can give him some hints that you’re interested. For example, take him to a cozy, candlelit restaurant that could be seen as romantic but then ensure that your conversation is light and friendly without flirtation. This strategy will intrigue him more – especially if he’s the type of guy who has women falling over him all the time. Stand out from the crowd.
  8. Own the room. No one wants to be around someone who’s always moaning and complaining, or talking about their damaged family relationships. It just brings down the whole vibe and can make him want to be anywhere else except around you. When you go to meet him, be confident and positive. That is contagious and will make him want to be around you. However, don’t overdo it as that will just fall flat and make it seem like you’re putting on a performance for him.
  9. Give him a well-timed compliment. You shouldn’t throw tons of praise over the guy. Again, it makes you seem desperate. If you want to compliment him, make sure that it’s a meaningful and memorable compliment. Most importantly, make it authentic. So, instead of saying that he’s sexy, tell him that he’s a great cook/always says the right thing/he really knows how to dress.
  10. Forget about your relationship expectations… for now. You should never put your relationship goals and expectations on the back-burner – but they don’t need to crash your early dates with the guy, either. It’s like pitching up with a list of demands right off the bat. It can be overwhelming, even though it’s good to know what you want. Here’s a tip to make him crave and chase you: leave your expectations at the door until you know him better. Have fun and enjoy your time together, no matter where it leads. It’ll keep him on his toes so he doesn’t get too comfortable.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.