Someone else’s happiness isn’t really your responsibility and sometimes even the best of intentions can’t cheer someone up. However, there are definitely things you can do in your relationship that will make your guy feel loved and secure. Here are eight ways to make your guy happy.
Listen to him. Guys love to be listened to. Even though there’s a stereotype that men usually socialize by sitting around and drinking beer while watching a game, your boyfriend would probably love the opportunity to talk to you about his work day or his plans for redecorating the garage. If he likes having little projects to do, he’ll love it if you asked positive questions about how things are going.
If he wants to take on a new hobby, support him. Pretend he wants to learn how to play guitar. Instead of responding that money is tight, or that he might give it up in a few months, encourage him to better himself. Obviously, he’s showing that he’s willing to learn new skills. His newfound interest may peter out, or it may lead to positive change in his life. Maybe he’ll make new friends or work contacts. Or, maybe he’ll just play for fun. Both of you don’t know until he gives it a shot. Likewise, it’s okay to push him towards his dream if he talks himself out of it. Your support means a lot.
Surprise him. Whether it’s with his favorite candy when you’re out at the grocery store or a fun date on the weekend. It’s important for both of you to keep the relationship interesting. You don’t have to go out of your way to truly wow someone. Small gestures often make a big difference, and he’ll appreciate all of the thought you put into your plan.
Let him have alone time. Even when you love someone, you don’t want to be with them 24 hours a day. Guys appreciate when they can take breaks without their girlfriends taking it personally. With some occasional space, neither one of you will feel suffocated within the relationship. It’s really important for both of you to have individual wind-down time, especially if you’re currently living together.
Food goes a long way. If you’re a great chef, it’s kind of you to whip up some of his favorites — especially if he’s been missing a dish from his childhood. If you’re not great in the kitchen, taking the lead with ordering food out will make him happy. If you both have an interest in learning more, consider trying to cook a dish together. It’ll be a memorable time, and both of you will learn a lot.
Crack jokes. Humor is a great tool in a relationship. Not only will a good sense of humor help alleviate any brief disagreements, but making each other laugh is a wonderful gift. Comedy is also something that you can work on that can help improve communication altogether. If the two of you are always serious and can never enjoy the lighter side of things, your relationship will be a lot harder to navigate.
Be kind to his family. Fingers crossed that he has nice parents. Whether you like it or not, they’re going to be a big part of your relationship if things get serious. Always err on the side of kindness. Don’t assume that his mom is out to get you, or that his family hates you. Bring a bottle of wine to celebrate the meet-up, if you’re of a legal drinking age. If not, homemade cookies are always a big hit. To make an even bigger impression, ask your boyfriend if his family has any known food allergies, just so you know what to avoid. Also, remember that every relationship is different. If your boyfriend spends a lot of time on the phone with his mom, it doesn’t necessarily mean he’s a “Mama’s Boy.” It just means they’ve got a great relationship.
Be realistic about money. Whether you have shared finances or still have your own accounts, many couples have big fights over money. Obviously, nobody wants to see their partner in debt. But if your boyfriend just got a huge promotion, you shouldn’t make him feel bad about a small splurge. You also want to keep yourself in check. Treat yourself to nice things on occasion, but don’t use your boyfriend’s wallet as your own. Expecting expensive gifts and presents all the time can be a big turn-off, and make him question your true intentions. Knowing how to spend and save is also a great quality for a girlfriend. Prove to him you can handle money like an adult.