Sometimes when we get comfortable in a relationship, we start to take our other halves for granted. If you feel like your partner is currently guilty of doing this, here’s how to make him realize just how incredible you are and how lucky he is to have you (because he totally is).
Treat him with kindness. It’s a well-known fact that we often take our bad moods out on our partner. Whether we’re dealing with a mental health issue or we simply haven’t had a good day, we can snap at him and be unkind to him when they’re only trying to help. To show him just how much you care, always be kind to your other half (even if you’re not feeling your best). It’s only fair if you expect that from him (and you should).
Tell him you’re grateful for him. Likewise, expressing gratitude for your partner and all that he does will make him want to repay the favor. From telling him how much you like it when he unloads the dishwasher to noticing when he’s dressed up for one of your date nights, if you’re vocal with your appreciation, he will be more likely to ensure you realize how much he appreciates you too.
Treat his loved ones with kindness. Another way to make him grateful for you is by treating his friends and family well. See them regularly. Make them feel included in your lives. Make him feel like your loved ones are his loved ones and vice versa. This way, everyone can see what an amazing person you are.
Be there for him during the tough times. A relationship doesn’t mean that you’re only together when everything’s rosy. You’ve got to go through the ups and downs to test its strength and resilience. The truth is, he’ll appreciate you more if you’re there for him during those not-so good days. Even if you’re both going through tough times, show that you’re still there for him and he’ll love you forever.
Call him out on his crap. Sometimes you have to make a guy realize how lucky he is to have you by giving him the tough love. If you feel like he’s taking you for granted, don’t let him walk all over you. Know your worth and call him out. If he’s a good guy, he’ll only respect you more for standing up for yourself.
Give him space. Similarly, you won’t make him grasp how great you are if you’re constantly in his pocket. Do you know what will? Allowing him to have his own space and do his own thing. And when you’re apart, don’t bombard him with texts and calls. Instead, let him miss you. The shock of not having you at his beck and call will soon become apparent.
Let him have his own life. Speaking of giving him space, try to avoid becoming one person with one life. Don’t do everything together. Don’t have the same friends that you hang out with. Have the life that you have together as well as a life apart. And this will ultimately make you appreciate the life that you do have together more.
Be affectionate. You can’t expect him to see you as the practically-perfect partner if you never touch him, and I’m not just talking about sexually. Hold his hand, brush the hair away from his face, and give him forehead kisses. Show him that you love him without just telling him all the time. This will only increase his personal happiness—as well as his happiness with you.
Be thoughtful. As well as being thoughtful with your touch, try to be thoughtful in other ways. After all, it’s often the little things that go a long way in a relationship. For example, pay for his dinner when he thought he was paying. Compliment him when he’s wearing a new shirt. Plan a fun trip. I mean, who wouldn’t be grateful for someone who treats them so well?
Be his biggest cheerleader. Another way to make him realize how lucky he is to have you is by supporting him in everything that he does. When he asks for your honest opinion, give it. Don’t sugarcoat things. Tell him when he’s wrong, but also help him put things right. And at the end of the day, let him know that you’re not going anywhere.
Push him to do better and be better. Speaking of challenging him, always have your partner’s best interests at heart. Push him when no-one else will. Give him the drive he needs to live a better life and be a better person. Ultimately, when you do this, he won’t be able to imagine his life without you in it.