You knew it was going to happen at some point. You broke up a while ago and he wasn’t going to stay single forever. However, somehow, now that he has a new girlfriend, you’ve suddenly gone into a total meltdown and don’t know what to do with yourself. First of all, breathe. Then, once you regain your composure, try doing these things to stop thinking about your ex cozying up to another woman. It’s hard, I know, but you can do it. I believe in you!s
- Find something to distract yourself. You’ll only stop thinking about your ex when you no longer have time to do so. It’s important that you distract yourself from fixating on his new relationship by, you know, doing something else (or many somethings else). Go to the gym, take a night class, reorganize your apartment, go shopping, cook an elaborate meal, binge watch Grey’s Anatomy from Season 1… the list is endless. Whatever you can do to distract yourself until this feeling passes, do it.
- Unfollow him on social media. To be honest, you should have done this back after you broke up, but if you haven’t yet, now’s the time. If you have unfollowed him, you’ll have to go the extra mile and block him so you’re not tempted to stalk his feed when you get bored, lonely, or jealous. It’s no wonder you can’t stop thinking about your ex and his new girlfriend when they’re constantly in your face, right?
- Give yourself time to grieve but set a limit. You were always going to feel a bit weird and sad when your ex got a new girlfriend. That’s just natural and human. Cut yourself some slack and give yourself space to feel your feelings. However, make sure you set a time when you pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move on. You can’t lose the rest of your life to this dude.
- Resist the impulse to stalk her online. You’ll never be able to stop thinking about your ex with his new girlfriend if you’re regularly stalking her on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and wherever else you can find her online. Of course you want to know what her deal is, what she’s like, and whether she stacks up to you in any way, but you need to block her too or you risk going down a very unhealthy path.
- Get rid of anything that reminds you of him. If you’re still hanging onto his old baseball t-shirt or still have a pair of his socks in your drawer, get rid of them. Now is the time to make an extremely clean break and you can’t do that when you have constant reminders of him hanging around your apartment.
- Don’t start dating just to compete. You’ll probably feel like you need to immediately download Tinder and swipe your heart out in order to find someone else to start dating so you can paste them online and make your ex jealous, but stop. This isn’t a competition. You want to meet someone when it’s right and have a real love in your life. Let your ex get on with whatever he’s doing and just worry about you.
