You Seriously Messed Up By Letting Me Go Because I’m Amazing

Everything about you seemed amazing, so I thought I had finally met my match. You were hardworking, independent, and funny, and even your flaws were more like quirks in my eyes. But apparently, you didn’t think the same of me. You might’ve felt fine about letting me go at first, but this is why you’re soon going to see that you made the biggest mistake of your life:

  1. I genuinely care about other people. I’m all about giving a damn about people that truly deserve it because I know exactly how it feels to be all alone. I thought you truly deserved my love, and I was ready to shower you with everything you desired. You’ll have an easy enough time finding a girl who only cares about herself — by giving up on me, you gave up on the rare kind of person who puts others’ interests before her own.
  2. I’m independent AF. I don’t need a man, and that’s what makes me such great girlfriend material. My life is full, and I’m happy with or without a relationship. Most strong, emotionally intelligent men would love that about the woman in their life, but apparently not you.
  3. I wanted you for the right reasons. I didn’t want to be with you because I was lonely, nor did I want someone to pay my way through life — I wanted you because of who you were. I was never concerned with what you could do for me, but what I could do for you. When you wind up with a woman who wants you for more shallow reasons, you’ll be kicking yourself for letting me go.
  4. I accepted you for who you really were. I didn’t hold your bad traits against you because I know that no one’s perfect. The dating world today is full of people with pros-and-cons lists, but I’m not that shallow. I know love has nothing to do with a checklist, and you’re going to realize just how rare that is when you can’t find anyone who accepts your flaws the way I did.
  5. You lost, not me. I know what a catch I am, and I thought you were, too. I’m understanding, patient, and someone who sticks with a person for better or for worse. You have to TRY to mess up as badly as you did, and by the time you realize what a mistake you made, I’ll be long gone.
  6. You didn’t just let me go — you fled. As soon as things started to get serious between us, you ran the other way like a child. I had a brief moment where I thought I messed up my chance with you, but if you live your life running away from real emotions and connections, then I guess I really didn’t lose anything worth having.
  7. You may be happy now, but that’ll change soon enough. We had something that could’ve been great, and you either didn’t realize it or didn’t care. You might have felt free when you first ended things, but after a while, you’ll realize just how badly you screwed up when you see how happy I am without you and how miserable you are without me.
  8. I’m the whole package. I know exactly who I am and what I have to offer, and it’s pretty great. I’m beautiful, smart, and hilarious. And those are just a few of my good qualities. You may be able to find someone who has a percentage of what I have, but you’ll never find someone quite like me again.
  9. You know how great I was, too. And that’s probably why you bolted the other way when things got real. We both felt that connection, but I was the only one with enough balls to see it through. Fear may have caused you to run, but it’s nothing compared to what you’re going to feel when you realize that you messed us up for nothing.
  10. I could’ve been the best thing that ever happened to you. I’m not even saying this in a cocky way — I’m just being authentic. I know that when I love a man, I do it right. There are very few people in the world that are deserving of that kind of love. You had that chance, and you really it screwed up. I was devastated at the time, but now I can see that I’m free to find someone who’s really worth my affection.
Angelica Bottaro has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Trent University and an Advanced Diploma in Journalism from Centennial College. She began her career as a freelance writer in 2014, racking up bylines in The Good Men Project, MakeWell, LymeTime, YouQueen, and more. She eventually shifted her focus and began writing about mental health, nutrition, and chronic disease for VeryWell Health.

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