I’m Single AF But I Believe In Fate — And You Should Too

Love doesn’t come easy and it definitely doesn’t come exactly when you want it. Despite the fact that I’m still single AF and can’t seem to meet a great guy to save my life, I still believe in fate when it comes to love. Just because I haven’t found The One yet doesn’t mean he doesn’t exist — he’s out there and it’s just a matter of time until he comes into my life. Here’s why I’m keeping the faith:

  1. I’ve seen it happen. I believe that fate is real because I’ve seen couples that clearly belong together and were meant to find each other. I’ve seen entangled stories of missed connections and inspired meetings, synchronicities and premonitions that led people to one another, and love that was there from the start and never left. There’s no reason I can’t have that too.
  2. It gives meaning to my breakups. Believing in fate helps me realize (and continue to believe) that the past relationships I’ve been in the eventually ended still had a purpose. Who knows if anyone else would agree with me about what that purpose was, but being able to see one has always allowed me to move forward as a changed person in a better way and not a bitter way.
  3. It doesn’t take away my personal choices. I believe that fate exists, yes, but we also get to make choices in any given situation about what we want for our lives. While sometimes I make the wrong choices, I don’t sweat it because at the end of the day, I know that it’ll always lead me exactly where I’m meant to be (hence the whole belief in fate thing).
  4. It’s pretty sad and jaded to believe otherwise. Life is pretty chaotic, and with billions of unique individuals with different personalities, desires, and dreams, it’s a wonder anything ever works out. Somehow, it does. Soulmates find each other and life has a way of working things out. If there was no Grand Plan, how would that happen?
  5. Things always work out the way they’re meant to, even if it’s not how I imagined they would. Life seems to have a way of unfolding over time in unexpected but beautiful ways, and that makes every confusing thing in your past make sense in retrospect. I think the same is true for relationships in that when you find The One, you realize exactly why it didn’t work with anyone else.
  6. Fate isn’t all that different than luck. Most people are comfortable with the term with luck even if they aren’t with the word fate, but it’s another side of the same coin. Luck is defined as something being brought on by chance as opposed to through one’s own actions, which is great for finding money on the street or winning the lottery, I guess. Fate is about the big stuff, but they’re both essentially following the same principle.
  7. When the perfect relationship comes together at the perfect time, what else could it be? I know several couples who met at the most unexpected but perfect times who’ve come together to have the most amazing love story. The fact that they found someone they were so well-suited to in a crazy world with so many people has to mean something, right?
  8. It’s romantic AF. The concept of fate or destiny is pretty romantic because believing in that means that every step you take is purposeful in the sense of your greater journey. It’s great to feel a sense of purpose, especially when you have no idea WTF you’re doing otherwise. Not every moment of a relationship is full of romance and serendipity, so I’d prefer to keep the big picture in mind.
  9. I’ve experienced fate before. I’ve experienced fate in all kinds of ways. The way I’ve met men, the way I’ve met friends, the way I’ve come across life-changing information, and the professional connections I’ve made… If it feels like magic and looks like magic, I’ll call it magic. Why shouldn’t I?
  10. I assume the universe is supportive. Not everyone is born into the world with the same set of circumstances, and it would be inaccurate to say that everyone has the same chances in life. However, we do all have the same opportunities to cultivate happiness in whatever moment we find ourselves in, and I think the more we can do that, the more we’re supported from the outside as well.
Kate Ferguson is a Los Angeles local and freelance writer for a variety of blog and magazine genres. When she's not writing, the UC Davis graduate is focused on pursuits of the entertainment industry, spin class, and hot sauce. Look for article links, updates, (and the occasional joke) on Twitter @KateFerg or @WriterKateFerg, or check out her personal blog ThatsRandomKate.blogspot.com