Why It’s So Much Harder For Blunt Women To Find Love

When you speak your mind without any kind of internal filter, dating can get even tougher than it already is. You want a connection, but you’re not going to compromise on who you are or try to change for anyone. Here’s why it’s so much harder for blunt women to find love:

  1. Not all guys think you’re as funny as you do.You know you’re hilarious, and your brutal jokes aren’t going to stop any time soon. When a guy doesn’t get your blunt sense of humor, you just can’t imagine a future together. If he’s not cracking up on the first date, he’s not the one for you.
  2. You can’t help but say your joke out loud, even when it’s hurtful.You know your blunt joke is mean, but you can’t help but say it anyway. Even when it sounds way too harsh in your mind, you’re going to say it anyway. You’d rather have the satisfaction of executing a great one liner than a happy date any day.
  3. Your honesty isn’t always appreciated.You can’t help but keep it real, always. That can include being mean and brutal at times, and you can get labeled as a bitch. You’re just being straightforward and honest, and you don’t really care if others can’t handle it.
  4. No one keeps up with you intellectually.You’re kind of a genius, so you need a smart guy to keep up with you. Most men just can’t stimulate you intellectually, and you won’t settle for someone who can’t.
  5. You can’t play nice with his idiot friends.You’ll completely tear down all his friends if they’re jerks. You can’t pretend they’re not idiots for the sake of the relationship, and you won’t be friends with a-holes you don’t like.
  6. You scare guys away.You’re a smart, funny, confident woman- and that can terrify men! Luckily for you, these aren’t the kind of men you’d want to end up with, anyway.
  7. You get pressured to tone it down.You can tone it down when it’s really important, but you won’t if you don’t see a good reason to. Some guys will pressure you to change into someone less blunt, but you’re happy with yourself just how you are now.
  8. You don’t play games, even the dating game.Sometimes it feels like the only people who get lucky in love are those who can play the game. You’re not interested in playing games or being disingenuous, even when it feels like that’s the only way to end up in a relationship. You’ll wait it out until you meet someone who’s as straightforward and direct as you are.
  9. You have a long list of deal breakers.You’re not into compromising on what you want out of a relationship. You’re honest about what you expect from a partner, which is basically for them to be as amazing as you are. That’s a high standard to live up to, so a lot of guys aren’t going to cut it.
  10. You bail at the slightest hint of dishonesty.You can’t stand being lied to, even when it’s a white lie or a lie by omission. Even when the lie isn’t about anything important, the betrayal of being dishonest is not one you can get over. Some of your friends might not understand why you’re upset, but once the trust is broken, it’s gone forever. There’s no point in trying to make it work after that.
Holly Harris is a freelance writer, full time student, and mommy to a toddler sass monster. In her (nearly nonexistent) free time, you can find her lifting something heavy in her home gym or chugging vodka sodas with friends. She contributes to several other sites, including Elite Daily.