I Know It’s Lame, But I Need A Guy Who Constantly Texts Me

I held out on getting a smartphone for a really long time because I already knew what would happen — I’d get addicted. I didn’t want to be a slave to technology and now I’m the worst of the bunch! My phone is a major part of my life, especially my dating life. Here’s why I need a guy who’s willing to message me all day long.

  1. My phone is basically glued to my hand. I’m always talking to someone, checking social media, posting pictures, checking the news, or reading articles. I hate that I’ve become this way but that’s how it is. Unless I’m literally forced to disconnect… I don’t. I’m a very busy person so texting is the way I keep in contact regularly with those close to me. If someone isn’t willing to text me back, we won’t talk much.
  2. I’m really big on all forms of communication. I jokingly refer to myself as “The Great Communicator,” but it’s basically true. I can definitely be counted on to keep people from losing touch with one another. I’m always checking in, whether it be through messages, emails, phone calls or face-to-face conversations. I prefer the face time, obviously, but it’s not always possible. Any man I like has to be down with all of this.
  3. I have a non-traditional schedule. It’s difficult for me to date because I work at night and on the weekends. Most guys have an opposite job schedule, so it’s rare that we score actual time together. If I’m seeing a man who works a 9-to-5, it’s pretty essential that he’s willing to communicate with me via text. We have to talk somehow. Otherwise, there’s hardly any way to keep it going. I don’t see much point in dating someone I never talk to or see.
  4. I’m always busy so I never take calls. Ideally, I’d talk to my guy on the phone as well; realistically, I hardly speak to anyone. I simply don’t have long windows of time in my daily schedule in which to engage in lengthy conversations. Most of the time, I have to text haphazardly over the span of several hours. This works out better in my life than actual phone calls. I don’t see the point when I only have five or 10 minutes to speak with someone. It feels rushed and impersonal that way.
  5. It’s difficult to spend actual time with people these days. Everyone has so much going on that I end up using text messaging as my primary form of communication with friends, family, and whoever I happen to be dating. That’s just the way it goes. I only have so much time to go around myself. If I don’t get to spend as much physical time as I’d like with my significant other, I need to be assured that we’re maintaining a decent bond through other types of communication.
  6. I just love to text — I can’t help it! I think a lot, and I talk a lot, and I type quickly. Texting combines all of these qualities into one perfect snowstorm of lengthy messages and well-placed emojis. If a guy gets annoyed when he receives messages all day and is expected to respond, he’s definitely not the one for me. I know most guys are terrible at texting so I get excited when I meet one who not only doesn’t mind my extensive communication but welcomes it.
  7. It’s an easy way to stay in touch and keep up. If I only talked to the guy I’m seeing when we’re actually face-to-face, we’d have to stay up all night babbling in order to catch up. It simply isn’t in the cards to physically be with each other enough to keep the relationship healthy. We need assistance from other forms of relaying information… like texting, of course.
  8. I need someone who’s an awesome communicator in general. I’ve dated men who weren’t great at expressing themselves and let me tell you, that did not work out well. Any guy I give my time, energy, and yes, my talkative self to must be willing and able to reciprocate. He has to be comfortable telling me what he wants and needs, whether that be in person or over other forms of communication. If we can’t have meaningful text conversations, I’ll get bored quickly.
  9. We have to have “text chemistry.” Allow me to explain because I know that’s confusing. Sometimes I text people and because they don’t really understand me — they don’t get that I’m joking or being sarcastic. On the other hand, sometimes they don’t grasp that I’m dead serious. I need someone who not only gets me as a person but is able to translate that into understanding the tone of my texts.
  10. I don’t know that a modern relationship can survive without it. It’s just the way the world is these days. We have less time to spend with each other so we have to cope and find ways to adapt. One of these methods of adaptation is text messaging those close to us in order to keep in touch. I would hardly talk to many people in my life if we didn’t text. It’s not for lack of caring, it’s just for lack of available time. I know that I wouldn’t last long with a guy if we didn’t communicate in this way.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and Thought Catalog. Amy is the founder of What If Journey and can be found on Twitter @amyhorton18. You can also visit her website at amyhorton.net.