If Your Guy Does These 10 Things, He’s A Keeper

Despite the ridiculous amount of toxic dudes in the dating scene, there are some genuinely decent guys who are looking for the same things as you and who’ll treat you like the queen you are. Have you found one? If you relate to any of these things, the answer is a big fat YES.

  1. Even when life gets real hectic, you always feel like his number one priority. If he were to list all his priorities, where would you rank in the pecking order? If you think you’d come first (which is the only place you should be), he’s a keeper. Your guy should value your relationship above anything else. Yes, that includes football, soccer, and nights out with the bros. That’s not to say he can’t or shouldn’t have a life outside of your relationship but that you should feel loved and valued in the midst of it all.
  2. He’s there for you even when you don’t realize you need him. Is your guy there for your during a crisis even if things get a little messy or if the timing’s inconvenient? You know you’re with a good guy if he goes above and beyond to help you through a rough time. If you’re looking for a long-term partner, it’s essential for him to show you compassion, consideration, and empathy when you need it the most (and even when you don’t realize you need it).
  3. He can’t imagine a future without you in it. You know he’s not leading you down the garden path if he talks about you in his future. Does he ever mention you when he talks about his life goals? If he can’t imagine going through any stage of his life without you by his side, that shows he’s thinking long-term and means business about your relationship. Yup, he’s a keeper.
  4. He wants to get to know the other people you know and love. Your friends and family are important to you so they’re important to him too. If he’s invited to a family party or a friends birthday, he’s excited to go with you. He considers getting to know the people who’ve helped shape the woman he loves a privilege, and that’s a rare thing.
  5. Your success brings him joy.  Some men are intimidated by successful women. Their egos are too fragile so they can’t hack it when their girlfriends are totally killin’ it in everything they do. This can lead to jealousy, bitterness, and filthy arguments. If your guy’s genuinely happy for and proud of you for smashing one goal after another and even brags about your accomplishment to others, he’s a keeper. Your guy should be your biggest cheerleader, after all.
  6. He actually listens to you because he cares about your day to day life. Does he not just hear what you have to say but actually absorb the information? If you have a big interview coming up or a daunting meeting ahead, does he remember? A simple text wishing you good luck or a call to ask how it went show he genuinely cares about you and your well-being. Sure, he might not always find these things super interesting, but they interest him because they have to do with you.
  7. He helps you become the best possible version of yourself. Your partner should make you feel like a million dollars—confident, fabulous, and beautiful. If you ever find your guy slowly chipping away at your self-confidence or putting you down, kick him to the curb. The right guy for you will make you feel like a superstar every single day.
  8. He makes you smile even when you want to cry. Can he make you feel better when you feel like poo? Whether he reminds you of an inside joke you share, surprises you with wine, or submits to binge-watching Gossip Girl, he always knows how to put a smile back on your face.
  9. He has his life together and is truly ready for a mature relationship. There’s no point wasting time trying to turn a boy into a man. If you want to make long-term plans with this guy, he should have his own apartment because he’s done with the bachelor lifestyle. He should be focused on his career and happy to start settling down. Make sure you’re both on the same page with this, otherwise it’ll only lead to upset.
  10. He truly values your opinion. Although he doesn’t always take your advice, he always asks for your opinion when it comes to major life choices. This is a sure sign he appreciates your input and takes you seriously. That’s the kind of guy you want to be with, right?
Rosie Greaves is a professional freelance writer based in Canterbury, UK. She specializes in lifestyle and relationships pieces and has a pet house rabbit called Bill!