It’s not always easy to believe someone truly cares about you. Trust me, I know. Failed relationships bring trust issues, which can make it difficult to accept love. However, if he does these 11 meaningful things, you can go ahead and let your walls come down because he’s the real deal.
- He puts your comfort first. Does he let you sleep in the middle of the bed with most (all) the covers pulled over your face? He cares! Your comfort is more important than his own. He lets you pick the restaurant on date nights and he drops plans if you need him. You’re a priority to him and that’s a clear sign his feelings for you are real.
- He sends thoughtful texts. He sends good morning, goodnight, and “just thinking about you” texts. Not because he knows you like them, but because you’re the first person he thinks of when he wakes up and the last one when he goes to sleep. His thoughtfulness is natural and he’s not afraid to let you know just how much you’re on his mind.
- He supports you even when he disagrees. He’s not passive—he lets you know when he agrees and disagrees with you—but that doesn’t mean he judges you. Even when he thinks you’re dead wrong, he supports your decisions. Did you decide to quit your job and build a new career? He might not think it’s a good idea, but he’ll still be your cheerleader.
- He compliments you often. He doesn’t hesitate to let you know how great you look or how funny your jokes are. That’s the sign of someone who really cares. He might not do this every single day, but you’ll never doubt his affection towards you. He makes you feel loved, really really loved, with his words and his actions.
- He picks up food even when he’s tired. He’ll happily pick up takeout and run to the grocery store to get your tampons. He’s a gentleman who wants to keep you happy. It’s not that he’s whipped (well, maybe a little), he just likes making you feel good, and he doesn’t mind if that means he has to do something a little uncomfortable.
- He steps in when you need it. Whether you need a shoulder to cry on or a night to yourself, he’ll give you what you need when you need it. He’s your rock and he’s happy to be that for you. In fact, he loves knowing he can be there at your worst and best moments.
- He takes you places you want to go. He doesn’t surprise you with baseball tickets knowing you absolutely hate the sport—he surprises you with things you actually like and takes you places you want to go. He understands you two have different interests and he doesn’t mind if he has to watch a rom-com instead of a horror movie every once in a while.
- He keeps you close. He gives you constant love and affection. He hugs and snuggles you without being told because he likes having you close. The best part is he’s not annoying about it. You don’t feel overwhelmed or suffocated by his affection. You feel loved, as you should be in a relationship.
- He always treats you the same. How he treats you in private is exactly how he treats you in public. His affection doesn’t waver depending on who’s around. Sure, he might not jump your bones while you’re out with friends, but he’ll still hold your hand, kiss you, and make you feel important.
- He says he’s sorry. He’s not afraid to apologize or admit when he’s in the wrong. He says he’s sorry without giving an excuse for his behavior and that’s the sign of someone who really cares. He’d rather own up to his mistakes than make you feel like shit. How many people are comfortable doing that? Not many.
- He listens when you talk. He doesn’t talk over you, no matter how irrelevant your story is. He actively listens because he respects you. Even when you’re just talking to hear yourself talk, he lets you go on, and on, and on. He understands you sometimes need to get things off your chest, and if that means he has to spend three hours talking about your best friend’s boyfriend, then so bet it.