You Won’t Actually Die Of A Broken Heart, Even If It Feels Like You Will

Have you ever been so heartbroken that you could feel it physically? Going through a breakup when you’re still head over heels in love, for better or for worse, is one of the hardest things anyone has to go through. While it’s true that your emotions can sometimes cause physical illness, you can’t actually die of a broken heart. Life goes on, even after the worst break up in history. You just have to keep putting one foot in front of the other and you’ll make it through the hard part. Promise.

  1. It could be a lot worse. I hate to pull the “There’s a lot of suffering in the world” card, but sometimes a little perspective helps you see how good you have it. You’re alive, you’re healthy, and you can get through this.
  2. Time heals all wounds. Not that you’ll ever completely forget how awful you feel at the moment, but as time goes by, the pain won’t be as sharp. Every day it will fade a little bit until you’re able to think about the good times you had with your ex without bursting into tears at what you lost.
  3. Your heart is pretty resilient. Human beings were built to deal with a lot of complex emotions including disappointment, anger, and love. No one gets over heartbreak the same way, so you just have to figure out what works for you, and let your heart do its healing.
  4. You’re entitled to fall apart a little bit. Just because you feel like you’re losing it right after a break up doesn’t mean you’re completely doomed to wallow in sorrow until the day you die. Letting yourself acknowledge and feel those hard emotions is important, because how else will you ever get past them?
  5. Distractions help. Throwing yourself into work and spending more time with your friends are both great ways to remind yourself that you still have a life apart from your failed relationship. Dwelling on your broken heart won’t help it heal any faster, so don’t give it more attention than it deserves.
  6. No one should have that much power over you. Why let one failed relationship completely destroy you? He may have been important to you once, but you have a lot more life to live, and you’re perfectly capable of doing that all on your own.
  7. If everyone else can do it, so can you. You know you aren’t the first person to feel heartbroken after a bad breakup, right? It happens to the best of us. And if everyone else can find a way to get past it, then there’s hope for you too.
  8. You have plenty more to live for. If your entire life revolved around your relationship, well now’s your chance to get some hobbies. There’s a whole world out there, and you owe it to yourself to see it before you die of anything.
  9. Lots of people love you. Sure, that one guy might not love you anymore. But your friends and family, and maybe even some of your co-workers do. Who’s saying they aren’t just as important?
  10. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. I know, I know, it’s cliche. But it’s true. With every failed relationship you get a little bit stronger and a little bit smarter. Hopefully you won’t make the same mistakes in your next relationship.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to, contributes regularly to, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.