44 Sad Signs You’re An Unattractive Woman (And What To Do About It)

The concept of attractiveness is diverse and subjective. It varies across cultures, communities, and individual preferences. Yet, society has built many standards and signs that may make a woman feel less attractive. It’s essential to remember that true attractiveness comes from a mix of inner qualities, confidence, and how one carries oneself. Here, we explore some signs you might be perceiving yourself or being perceived as less attractive and ways to address them. But remember, everyone’s journey to self-love and confidence is personal, and you deserve to feel beautiful in your skin.

1. You have extremely low self-esteem.

If you’re constantly second-guessing your choices or feel uncomfortable in your skin, it can be perceived as less attractive. Confidence is magnetic. No one wants to be around someone who’s constantly down on themself.

What to Do: Work on building your self-esteem. Remember that every individual is unique, and comparing yourself with others won’t help. Focus on your strengths and achievements.

2. Your personal hygiene needs work.

Neglecting basic hygiene practices can affect how others perceive you. If you don’t shower, brush your teeth and hair, or bother to wash your clothes, it’s time to shape up.

What to Do: Regular showers, oral care, and grooming can make a massive difference in how you feel and are perceived.

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4. You don’t look after your health.

Consistently neglecting your health can reflect on your appearance. Never using that gym membership you’re paying $100 a month for and living on McDonald’s and frozen pizza would turn any woman into an unattractive one.

What to Do: Prioritize a balanced diet and regular exercise. It’s not about being skinny but being healthy and energetic.

5. You have terrible posture.

Slouching can sometimes be perceived as a lack of confidence. Plus, it makes you look shorter and frumpier than you are. Stand up straight! Your spine will thank you in years to come.

What to Do: Practice standing and sitting up straight. Yoga and pilates can help improve posture.

6. You don’t dress for your body type.

Wearing clothes that don’t flatter your body can affect your overall appearance. While yes, you should be able to wear what you want, knowing what looks good on you is a big part of looking as good as you feel.

What to Do: Understand your body type and choose outfits that complement it.

7. You’re always negative.

Constant negativity can make one less attractive, regardless of physical appearance. No one is going to find a Debbie Downer attractive.

What to Do: Work on cultivating a positive mindset. Surround yourself with uplifting individuals.

8. You’re overly self-deprecating to the point that it’s not funny anymore.

While occasional self-deprecating humor can be relatable, overdoing it can be off-putting. It stops being hilarious and starts being pretty uncomfortable for everyone around you.

What to Do: Recognize your worth and don’t always be the butt of the joke.

9. You don’t have any interests or hobbies.

Not having hobbies or passions can sometimes make conversations dull. It also makes you kind of a boring person who never has anything to offer.

What to Do: Find activities you’re passionate about. It will not only make you more interesting but also happier.

10. You don’t look after your skin.

While blemishes and scars are normal, completely neglecting your skin can affect your appearance. Sleeping in your makeup, never washing your face, and not having a basic moisturizing routine are big no-nos, especially once you hit your 20s and above.

What to Do: Develop a simple skincare routine and stick to it.

11. You’re not a very kind person.

Being rude or mean can overshadow physical attractiveness. There’s nothing more unattractive than a woman who’s rude for no reason.

What to Do: Cultivate empathy and understanding. Treat others with respect and kindness.

12. You avoid making eye contact.

Avoiding direct eye contact during conversations can come across as a lack of interest or confidence. It also makes you look shifty and like you have something to hide.

What to Do: Practice making comfortable eye contact. It can communicate attentiveness and boost connection.

13. You never smile.

While you don’t need to always wear a smile, perpetually appearing miserable can be off-putting to some. Yes, it’s gross and off-putting when men tell you to paste a grin on your face, but you should have enough to smile about that it’s genuine and comes naturally.

What to Do: Try to be present in the moment and engage genuinely with your surroundings. Smiling naturally not only brightens your face but also exudes positivity.

14. You dominate every conversation.

Constantly leading conversations without giving others a chance to speak can be seen as self-centered. Let other people speak and actually listen to what they have to say.

What to Do: Practice active listening. Engage in discussions by valuing others’ perspectives and taking turns speaking.

15. You hide behind makeup.

While makeup is a powerful tool for self-expression, overly relying on it to feel attractive might indicate a lack of self-acceptance. If you want to beat your face, go for it — just don’t use it as a crutch.

What to Do: Embrace your natural beauty. Use makeup as an enhancer, not a mask.

16. You overthink your appearance.

Constantly seeking validation or being overly concerned about looks can be perceived as insecurity. You’re more likely to be an unattractive woman if all you care about is being attractive, if that makes sense.

What to Do: Focus on building self-worth from within. Your value isn’t determined solely by your appearance.

17. You come off as unapproachable.

A constant stern or closed-off expression can make you seem unapproachable. You should be friendly and open, not seem like a total you-know-what.

What to Do: Be aware of your body language. Open stances and relaxed expressions can make a huge difference.

18. You ignore your mental health.

Mental well-being affects all aspects of life, including how you perceive yourself and how others perceive you. Not prioritizing self-care or working through trauma or baggage is unattractive not just in a woman but in anyone.

What to Do: Seek professional help if needed and prioritize self-care routines that nourish your mental state.

19. You never update your look.

Wearing outdated fashion or hairstyles can sometimes be perceived as a lack of self-care or awareness. That’s not to say that you should go for every single fashion trend simply because Vogue says it’s in. However, you also don’t want to get stuck in the past or be unwilling to try new things.

What to Do: It’s not about being trendy but feeling refreshed. Update your wardrobe or hairstyle as a treat to yourself, not as a societal compulsion.

20. You’re not particularly authentic.

Pretending to be someone you’re not or trying too hard can come across as inauthentic. An unattractive woman is one who doesn’t back her own originality.

What to Do: Be genuine and embrace who you truly are. Authenticity is magnetic.

21. You’re always looking for attention.

Constantly trying to be the center of attention can be tiring for those around you. It’s okay to enjoy the spotlight, but if you can’t live without it, that’s a problem.

What to Do: Understand that you don’t always need to be in the spotlight to be valued. Focus on building genuine connections.

22. You avoid self-care.

Neglecting basic self-care routines can be perceived as a lack of respect for oneself. You don’t need to journal by candlelight or take nightly bubble baths, but you should be doing things to fill your own cup, so to speak.

What to Do: Establish a simple routine that ensures you feel good inside out. It could be as basic as skincare or dedicating a day in a week for self-pampering.

23. You apologize too much.

Constantly saying sorry, even when not required, can be a sign of low self-esteem. If you haven’t done anything wrong, STFU and don’t apologize!

What to Do: Recognize your worth. Stand by your opinions and decisions without feeling the need to constantly apologize.

24. You have a chip on your shoulder.

There’s nothing more unattractive in a woman than a bad attitude. If you have a snarky remark every time someone dares to disagree with you, you need to reassess.

What to Do: Adopt a more balanced perspective. While it’s okay to vent occasionally, also focus on the positives and cultivate gratitude. Work on accepting constructive criticism, too.

25. You never stand up for yourself.

Constantly bending to the will of others can indicate a lack of self-assurance. A doormat is not attractive, end of story. It’s important to have a backbone and not let people walk all over you.

What to Do: Learn to assert yourself. Recognize your boundaries and be vocal about them.

26. You have no ambition or drive.

While everyone’s pace in life is different, having no goals or aspirations can be seen as a lack of motivation. An unattractive woman is one who’s fine with the status quo. Think bigger!

What to Do: Set small, achievable goals for yourself. Celebrate every milestone, and remember it’s okay to ask for help or seek mentorship.

27. You’re super judgmental of other people.

Constantly judging others can make you seem insecure and unattractive, especially if you’re extra critical of other women.

What to Do: Before making a judgment, try to walk a mile in the other person’s shoes. Empathy and understanding are always appreciated.

28. You rely on social media for validation.

Being overly concerned about likes, shares, or followers can come across as superficial. It’s nice when people compliment a hot selfie you took, but there’s more to life than Instagram and TikTok.

What to Do: Limit your social media usage or take breaks. Focus on real-life interactions and find validation within yourself.

29. You never take initiative.

Always waiting for things to happen or for others to make the first move can signify passivity. You’re in the driver’s seat of your own life, so use it to your advantage.

What to Do: Sometimes, take charge. Whether it’s in relationships or at work, showing initiative can be empowering.

30. You’re disconnected from reality.

Living too much in your head or being out of touch with real-world events can make it hard for others to relate to you. It’s fine to be in your own little world sometimes, but the real world matters too.

What to Do: Stay informed. Engage in meaningful conversations and keep yourself updated on current events.

31. You’re a gossip monger.

Constantly talking about others behind their back is not an endearing quality. Talking crap about anyone and everyone, even if just to pass the time, is a trait of a very unattractive woman.

What to Do: Focus on meaningful conversations that don’t involve other people’s business. If gossip starts, try to steer the conversation in a different direction.

32. You’re always late to everything.

Consistently being late can show a lack of respect for others’ time. If everyone else can leave early to get there on time, so can you. You’re not special!

What to Do: Always aim to be on time. If you’re running late, communicate beforehand to let the other person know.

33. You wear an overbearingly strong perfume.

While it’s great to smell nice, an overpowering scent can be a turn-off. Go easy on the Chanel, lady.

What to Do: Use fragrances sparingly. Sometimes, less is more.

34. You don’t really listen to other people.

If you often find yourself waiting for your turn to speak rather than truly listening, it can make you appear self-centered. Don’t just listen to what other people say, but take it in too.

What to Do: Practice active listening. Show genuine interest in what the other person is saying and ask open-ended questions.

35. You never admit when you make mistakes.

Nobody’s perfect. If you never admit when you’re wrong, it can make you seem arrogant. No one believes you’re flawless, so why would you continue to act as if you are?

What to Do: Own up to your mistakes. Apologizing and learning from errors can be very admirable.

36. You come off as aloof or uninterested.

Appearing disinterested or bored all the time can be unappealing. There’s nothing attractive about a woman who couldn’t care less about pretty much anything in her life.

What to Do: Find passion in something, be it a hobby, work, or a cause. Passion and enthusiasm can be contagious.

37. You don’t respect other people’s boundaries.

Overstepping personal or emotional boundaries can be a significant red flag. It shows you don’t respect people and think you can just do whatever you want without consequence. Girl, no.

What to Do: Understand and respect personal space. Always ensure your actions and words respect the other person’s boundaries.

38. You’re always on your phone.

Being constantly glued to your screen, especially when in the company of others, can make you seem disengaged and disinterested in real-life interactions. Put it away and move on.

What to Do: Set boundaries for screen time, especially when in social settings. Prioritize face-to-face interactions, and be present in the moment.

39. You come off as a very cold person.

Not everyone is extremely warm and friendly, especially in social situations, but acting cold and standoffish is sure to portray you as an unattractive woman.

What to Do: Try to be a bit more welcoming and friendly to people. While you shouldn’t be fake, you should find a genuine way to open up and be more receptive.

40. You’ve always felt ugly.

While this could be down to body dysmorphia and a severe lack of self-confidence, it could just be that you’re not conventionally attractive. That doesn’t mean you’re an unattractive woman, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

What to Do: Learn to value other people’s opinions slightly less and instead build your own sense of self-worth.

41. No one ever flirts with you and if they do, you never flirt back.

Not having guys throw themselves at you doesn’t necessarily make you an unattractive woman, but it could signify that they’re not really into you and don’t find you pretty.

What to Do: If someone does show you attention, don’t judge them too harshly or write them off so quickly. Charisma can very easily outweigh physical appearance.

42. You’re terrified of rejection.

While most people understand that you’re going to stumble many times before you succeed, you get caught up in winning every single time, which is a really unattractive trait for a woman.

What to Do: Learn to see your failures as a learning experience and use them to evolve as a person.

43. You hate on pretty women.

If conventionally pretty women are your pet peeve and you often find yourself going into hater mode about them, you’re the unattractive woman here, there’s no doubt about that.

What to Do: Work on unlearning the behaviors that have turned you into a miserable troll. You’re clearly not a very nice person, and that’s half the problem.

44. You go out of your way to try and impress people.

Nothing screams desperation more than someone who constantly brags about things they have/have done and who go out of their way to one-up everyone else all the time. Yikes.

What to Do: Consider therapy. You obviously have a lot of insecurities to deal with and talking with a professional might help.

Bolde has been a source of dating and relationship advice for single women around the world since 2014. We combine scientific data, experiential wisdom, and personal anecdotes to provide help and encouragement to those frustrated by the journey to find love. Follow us on Instagram @bolde_media or on Facebook @BoldeMedia