10 Signs He Loves You Even If He Doesn’t Say The Words

Everyone wants to hear that their partner loves them, but you can usually tell when someone feels that way about you even before those words are spoken. While it’s important to have a partner who can verbally share his feelings, there are ways to tell he loves you until he does. Here are a few signs that he’s already fallen for you.

  1. You catch him looking at you for no reason in particular. He’s so mesmerized by you that sometimes he just can’t look away. You can be sitting at your computer or chewing your dinner in silence and you’ll catch him looking at you. Either he’s lost in his own thoughts about how amazing you are or he’s wondering how he can tell you he loves you without ruining the moment with words. Sometimes silence says it all.
  2. He values your opinion. Whenever he’s struggling with a decision or unsure about how to move forward with something, you’re the first person he talks to. He trusts your intuition and knows you know him better than anyone. Even if he’s mostly made up his mind, he’ll still ask for your input because he is more than happy to change his mind if what you have to say rings true to him. And it usually does.
  3. He goes out of his way to take care of you. You don’t have to ask him to rub your shoulders at the end of a long day or make you a coffee and a bagel when you’re running late for work. He does these things instinctively because his love for you makes him want to take care of you. With each of these actions, he’s showing you he loves you even if he doesn’t say the words.
  4. He listens even when what you’re saying has nothing to do with him. He’s just as interested in listening to you talk about your coworkers or a memory from your childhood as he is in hearing you talk about him. He wants to hear everything you have to say because he wants to know everything about you and be as close to you as he possibly can be. He cares about you, and therefore cares about everything you care about.
  5. He remembers the details. Nothing says “I love you” like a person who remembers even the most mundane things you’ve told them. When he remembers the name of someone you vaguely mentioned three weeks ago or cooks your favorite meal even though you forgot you ever told him you had one, you can be pretty sure that his feelings for you run deep.
  6. He’s physical about it. When someone goes out of their way to touch you in non-sexual ways, you can be pretty confident they’ve fallen for you. Even if they don’t know it themselves yet, their actions will tell you all you need to know. If he’s initiating hand-holding and coming closer just so he can touch your shoulder or brush the hair out of your eyes, he’s definitely fallen in love with you.
  7. He goes out of his way to spend time with you. Even when it’s inconvenient or late or you both have to be up early, he makes sure you spend time together. He’ll make excuses to not go out with his friends just to be with you even though you’ve been together the last few nights. Basically, there’s nowhere he’d rather be than with you, especially if all you do is just stay home together.
  8. He brags about you. Whether he’s telling his friends that you’re the smartest person he’s ever met or informing his parents that you will definitely be the next CEO of the company you work for, his outward excitement and respect for you says it all. He’s so thrilled to be with you that he just can’t stop telling everyone how much he admires you.
  9. He initiates conversations about the future. Talking about the future is scary, no matter how you feel about someone. It will often lead to awkward and vulnerable conversations where the two of you are trying to figure out where the other person stands and whether or not it’s okay to sound excited or nervous. But as long as your partner wants to have the conversation, it’s clear they’re imagining a life with you.
  10. Actions speak louder than words. In the end, you can trust a person who shows their love but doesn’t say it far more than you can trust a person who tells you they love you but doesn’t show it. Love is expressed in actions, and no matter how good it feels for someone to say “I love you,” it means absolutely nothing if they don’t back it up with tangible evidence. Don’t settle for someone who only says “I love you.” Choose someone who shows you they love you.
Rose Nolan is a writer and editor from Austin, TX who focuses on all things female and fabulous. She has a Bachelor of Arts in Theater from the University of Surrey and a Master's Degree in Law from the University of Law. She’s been writing professional since 2015 and, in addition to her work for Bolde, she’s also written for Ranker and Mashed. She's published articles on topics ranging from travel, higher education, women's lifestyle, law, food, celebrities, and more.