Signs You Lack Healthy Boundaries In Your Relationship

If you’re a hopeless romantic who feels there’s nothing better than being so close to your partner that you’re basically the same person, snap out of it. Having healthy boundaries is important in any kind of relationship, particularly romantic ones. When you lack expectations and limitations in love, you’re going to let yourself in for a world full of trouble. Here are some signs you need to switch up your approach a bit.

You always put your partner’s needs first. You sacrifice your own happiness for the sake of theirs and make sure their needs are met before your own when you lack healthy relationship boundaries. Instead of making sure your cup is full since you can’t pour from an empty one, you constantly go out of your way to make your partner’s life easier and solve their problems, neglecting your own in the process.

You agonize over letting your partner down. When there comes a time that you literally can’t put your partner first, maybe because you have a work or family commitment that you can’t get out of, it absolutely destroys you. You’re incredibly upset with yourself and feel terrible about letting your partner down, even when they’re totally fine to sort things out on their own. In a healthy relationship, boundaries mean that you help when you can but it’s totally understandable when you can’t.

You feel mentally and emotionally exhausted for no reason. You can’t quite figure out why you’re constantly physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausted all the time, but it’s obvious: you lack healthy relationship boundaries which means that you’re overextended and overtired. It makes perfect sense but it’s totally avoidable.

You forgive the unforgivable. If you find yourself willing to overlook, forget about, or forgive things that you really shouldn’t, it’s a clear sign you lack healthy relationship boundaries. There’s nothing wrong with calling out bad behavior and reacting accordingly. If someone abuses you in any way, cheats on you, doesn’t respect you, or treats you like crap, you have every right to react and walk away. In fact, you owe it to yourself.

You start to resent your partner. Eventually, not having boundaries will get the better of your relationship. You’ll get so sick of being disrespected, taken advantage of, and overextending yourself for someone who doesn’t appreciate you that you’ll start to resent your partner and hate being around them. It doesn’t have to be like this!

You give more than you get. Relationships are supposed to be 50/50 most of the time, but if you’re finding your relationship is more like 80/20 or worse, 90/10, you’re clearly giving more than you’re getting and that’s a problem. You’re part of a team, so if your partner isn’t stepping up to the plate, it’s time to leave them behind.

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