Being Single Can Suck, But It’s Better Than Dealing With These 9 Relationship Problems

There’s a reason being single gets a bad rap: although it means complete freedom, it also can mean being lonely and not having an automatic plus-one to events. However, while rolling solo long-term can suck, there are definitely some upsides, and it’s better than having to deal with these relationship problems.

  1. Wondering why your BF is taking so long to text/call you back Whether you’ve been dating for a month or a year, this can be frustrating and cause stress even when you trust him completely. But seriously? It’s 2017—who doesn’t check their phone every 5-10 minutes!? What has he been doing for the past two hours that he hasn’t responded? I don’t know about you but I’d rather be alone than have to stress about this crap.
  2. Having to get along with his family members This one can be easy if they’re super inviting and accepting of you, but in my experience, that’s rarely the case. Usually, at least one family member is hard to win over and maybe even just straight up dislikes you. Having to make small talk when you see them can be really uncomfortable, but if you’re single, you won’t have to worry about this!
  3. Wanting to stay in when he wants to go out and vice versa When you’re in a relationship, compromise is key to making it work. Sometimes you’ll choose to stay in and cuddle with your guy instead of going out even though a night out on the town is what you were really in the mood for. The opposite situation can happen as well. Not when you’re single! You can do whatever you want, whenever you want, and it feels damn good.
  4. Worry about whether his friend that’s a girl is really just a friend Even though you trust him and know he wouldn’t act on it, sometimes you can’t help but wonder if he has any feelings for her or if they would maybe hook up if you weren’t in the picture. You want to like her and believe he doesn’t but it’s hard not to be suspicious in this situation.
  5. Getting annoyed or jealous when he chooses to go out with his guys over your usual Friday night date night even though you know you’re overreacting a little Being in a relationship can mean taking things as a personal attack even when you know they’re not, and feeling hurt over things that normally wouldn’t bother you. If you’re single, you don’t have to deal with feeling like this, which is a major plus.
  6. Feeling too comfortable or bored in the relationship After being in a relationship for a while, you do start to feel comfortable, which can be a good thing but can also become monotonous and a little boring. You develop a routine and it can get a little stale. You know that you love your BF but you’re starting to feel a little antsy and complacent. Being single means always mixing it up and doing different things. I’d rather not have to be creative 24/7.
  7. Being forced to watch the game for the team he roots for or the TV show he’s obsessed with that doesn’t interest you He should do the same for you, but still. Watching a sports game you have no interest in can make you roll your eyes and it’s hard to get into a TV show that doesn’t interest you in the slightest. Being single means you can watch whatever you want anytime! You can binge watch Shameless for the third time and no one will complain about it. Bliss
  8. Seeing that he liked some girl’s picture on Instagram and wanting to confront him about it but not wanting to seem crazyYou don’t want to look like a psycho stalker, but come on, Instagram basically makes it too easy to see that he’s liked someone’s picture. Of course, it probably doesn’t mean anything but it still stings a little. Another example of this is when you two go to take a selfie on Snapchat on his phone and you notice one of his “top friends” is another girl. Your first instinct is most likely to flip out but you don’t also want to seem controlling. It’s a whole lot of unnecessary drama.
  9. Feeling like you’re missing out on fun times with your girlfriends Even though you swear you’re not one of those girls who ditches her friends when she gets into a relationship, it’s only natural that you spend less time with them when you have a boyfriend. Crazy Saturday nights bar hopping with your girls become nights in cuddling with your guy, which isn’t always a bad thing, but it can make you feel left out and give you FOMO when you see how much fun they’re having on their Snapchat stories. Being single means you can always make plans with your girls and never missing out on the fun times with them.
Kerry is a freelance writer from Boston, Massachusetts who now lives in the Sunshine State with the love of her life and her 15 month old daughter. She writes frequently about her personal experiences (find more of her work on She has an Etsy shop with cute items: she's not writing, she loves to spend time outside, at the beach, and with her family.