If You Sleep With Me & Then Disappear, You’re A Loser

Far too many women have slept with a guy believing he had the best of intentions, only to later discover the only thing he was interested in was an orgasm. These kinds of guys may not think they’re doing any harm, but that’s only because they only have their own selfish desires in mind. If you’re the kind of dude who likes to pull this BS, you really need to understand these things:

  1. It’s not that hard to tell a woman your true intentions. Honestly, you can’t just tell a woman you only want sex? Being truthful isn’t really the massive challenge you’re making it out to be. If you don’t want a relationship, then don’t pretend you do. It really is that simple.
  2. There are some women out there who are also interested in just sex. In modern dating there are plenty of women who don’t want relationships either. Go find them. Lots of women out there want nothing more than an active sex life, so there’s no reason to target those of us who are looking for meaningful relationships.
  3. Love shouldn’t be a manipulative tool. You act like Prince Charming, but really, you’re just another masked villain luring victims into his dungeon. You trick women into thinking that you’re falling in love with them so that you can get them into bed. Something as beautiful as love shouldn’t be used in such a sickening way.
  4. You’re the real forever alone. You might break a few hearts, but those girls will move on and finally meet men of stature. You, on the other hand, are destined for a life all alone. You’ll never know real love, and you’ll never have true companionship. The best you can hope for is that women keep buying your BS. Eventually, your charm and good looks will fade, and you’ll regret screwing all those good people over when they were looking for something real.
  5. Every woman deserves better than a man like you. You get that you’re exactly the type of man women despise, right? Men are constantly complaining about how they deserve more credit than women give them, but you’re the kind of guy that gives your whole gender a bad reputation. If you ever hear a woman complain that all guys are the same, just remember that you’re the kind of man who helped cement that idea in her mind.
  6. You’re missing all the good parts of a real relationship. The fact that you’re missing out on love is just heartbreaking. You might think that relationships aren’t worth the stress, but you’re wrong. Sex is fine, but waking up next to someone you love is so much better. If you keep up this behavior, you’ll never know anything more gratifying than getting laid.
  7. Women are more than just warm bodies. You think that’s all they have to offer, but it’s not. When you use women for sex and then cut them loose, you’re missing out on their amazing minds and hearts. The right woman will be your best friend as well as your partner, and you’re going to miss out on her if you cast her away just so you can sleep with someone different.
  8. In all honesty, you’re pathetic. You brag about your conquests to your bros, and that makes you feel like you’re a big deal. That might be your daydream, but it’s not reality. The only people who will praise you for nailing and bailing are men who are just as simple as you are. You’re not a hot shot — you’re just a coward who’s too afraid to fall in love.
  9. There’s so much more to life than sex. Of course, you’ll never know that if you keep playing this twisted little game. Sex might make you feel good for a little while, but the second she leaves your bed, you’re back to being all alone. You’re living a life without emotional intimacy, and as far as I can see, there’s nothing more tragic than that.
  10. Your game is your loss. It sucks to be the woman in this scenario, but the person who deserves the most pity is you. The women you bail on are just doing their best to find love. That’s a noble quest, but your goal to hit it and quit it is just sad. You could be missing out on the love of your life, but you’d never know it because you kicked her out of your life after you slept with her.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.