Smart Girls Aren’t Doomed When It Comes to Love — That’s BS

You’re independent, driven, funny and intelligent as hell, and it’s the latter trait that makes you immune to all the BS that guys throw your way. Sometimes, you feel like it’s almost impossible to find a great guy to be in a real, fulfilling relationship with, but it’s not. Smart girls, love will find you — here’s why you shouldn’t give up on it:

  1. You refuse to settle. You know your worth and are incapable of settling for anything less than you deserve. Sure, you’re susceptible to the occasional rebound or no-strings hookup, but when it comes to relationships, it’s hard to force feelings when they just aren’t there, and that’s better for everyone. When the real deal comes along, you’ll be ready for it and it’ll be better than you ever could have imagined.
  2. You never run out of things to talk about. Your mind is a deep sea of fun facts, practical knowledge, and probably millions of fabulous pop culture references. When someone starts talking to you, they don’t want that conversation to end. Your future partner will feel the same way. You’ll never run out of amazing topics to discuss, because you love learning as much as you love sharing the things you already know.
  3. Players are afraid of you. Smart women are terrifying to players. Why? Because your BS detector is on point, and they know you can see right through their game. They’ll keep their distance once they get a peek into your stellar intelligence, which is great, because you don’t have time for their nonsense anyway.
  4. You see past external beauty. It’s hard to resist the allure of a guy with abs, an easy smile, and twinkling eyes — but once you get past the dreaminess, you can see straight through to what’s really inside. If hotness is all there is, you’ll get bored quickly. And since intelligence is important to you, a guy who might not have the pretty exterior package will capture your attention if he’s a critical thinker. You know that looks fade over time, so you’ll be sure to catch a guy who’s got more to offer.
  5. Self-love is a priority. You have enough wisdom to know that you can’t find forever love until you can look in the mirror and shower yourself with compliments. The more you do this, the sooner the one you’re meant to be with will arrive — and he’ll give you the same compliments you’ve been giving yourself.
  6. You know that being alone doesn’t mean you’re lonely. Your thoughts can keep you endlessly entertained. Being single doesn’t mean you’re lonely. There are too many books to read, movies to watch, and opportunities to hang out with your favorite people to feel even an ounce of loneliness. Your relationship (or lack thereof) will never define you, and that’s how it should be.
  7. You value your time and won’t accept someone who doesn’t. You know yourself and what you’re ultimately looking for, so dating someone who isn’t right for you or even chatting with someone you know you won’t share a future with will feel like a complete waste of your time. This makes you a fantastic dater who doesn’t play games.
  8. You’re always looking to better yourself. You’re a sponge, and you want to learn anything and everything you can. Learning new things will inevitably make you a better person, because added awareness of the past, present, and future makes you more open-minded — and an open-minded human is the best kind of human.
  9. You see disaster a mile away. You have a solid grasp on how the world works, so even in the confusing mess that is the modern dating world, you know where you stand. You can separate the casual hookups from the legit relationship candidates and you can tell when a guy is too good to be true. You can basically see the future, and that’s pretty GD rad.
  10. The right guy won’t feel like he even deserves you. There will be boys who act like jerks and then try to backtrack on their terrible behavior by saying they don’t deserve you. And then there are men who see all that you are, are completely in awe of you, and fully understand that you can find someone better because you are a QUEEN. The latter is headed your way and will give you everything you deserve. Promise.
  11. Your intelligence is hot AF. Smart women are dangerous. They are intimidating. They are bosses. They are warriors. They will not only succeed on their own but will also successfully blast through sexist and unfair obstacles that lay in their path. You are one of them, and regardless of what you look like on the outside, your drive and thirst for knowledge make you an epic and royal catch. Never forget that.
is a freelance writer for Bustle and Petcha, and editor for Wise Bread. She suffers from separation anxiety, and can't bear to be away from her dog for more than 20 minutes. Her dog doesn't seem to care either way. Sweater season is her favorite season.