10 Things You’re Doing On Social Media To Turn Guys Off, According To A Guy

Potential partners are always going to check your pages and if a guy likes what he sees, he may fall for you even more; if he doesn’t, it could be a major turn-off. Here are 10 things you might be doing on social media that could be turning potential boyfriends away.

  1. Posting risqué selfies. A few selfies are fine, but be aware of how revealing they are. Unless you’re at the beach, selfies that show off a lot of skin can actually scare off potential boyfriends. Guys who are looking for a girlfriend may not take you seriously if all of your selfies are a little risqué and revealing. Whether you mean to or not, it sends the signal that you’re just having fun and not looking for a real relationship.
  2. Ranting and raving. Social media was created in large part as a platform for complaining, sure, but you don’t want to overdo it. For the record, most guys will like that you’re opinionated and passionate about subjects, so if you feel strongly about something, feel free to post something. Still, there’s a fine line between expressing your opinion and going on rants. Some guys will get turned off if they see your Facebook page and it’s nothing but long paragraphs raving about everything wrong with the world. You ladies would probably feel the same way if you saw that on a guy’s Facebook page. Remember, it goes both ways.
  3. Vaguebooking. Whether it’s friend, foe, or lover, nobody likes when a person does some vaguebooking on social media. Posting vague and cryptic messages on social media is akin to playing games in a relationship. If a guy notices that you do this, he’ll assume you like playing games and are more than a little immature. If you can’t come out and say what you mean, most guys aren’t going to waste their time trying to figure out what you mean.
  4. Sending nude Snapchat pics. This seems like a good idea to woo a guy you just met, but not if you want the relationship to go beyond the bedroom. When things get a little more serious, sending nude Snapchat pics can be super sexy. However, you don’t want to do it at the beginning of a relationship. It may not scare him off, but it will make him think that you’re not looking for anything serious and you’re not girlfriend material.
  5. Posting pics of other guys. Unless you’re collecting random guys, it’s usually best to minimize the number of pictures of random guys on your social media. Potential boyfriends are going to see these pics and you probably don’t want them to be unnecessarily jealous or intimidated. If you have a brother or close friend who keeps popping up in your photo albums, that’s fine, but the more random guys found in your pics, the faster a good guy’s feelings for you will fade.
  6. Tweeting like it’s your job. Guys interested in you will want to see what you’ve been tweeting. In fact, they’ll be disappointed if you haven’t said anything in two years. However, most guys aren’t voracious readers. I know, it’s a problem, but that means some guys will be overwhelmed and turned off if you tweet too often. Reading 10-tweet rants on a daily basis is a bit tedious. Remember, nobody wants to follow someone who’s going to be clogging up their timeline every day.
  7. Being guilty of premature status change. A great way to scare off a guy is to change your relationship status too soon. This seems like it should be standard operating procedure, but don’t tell the world that you’re in a relationship until you talk to your partner. Don’t let the guy learn on social media that he’s officially in a relationship. Wouldn’t it be romantic to talk about it first so you two can change your status at the same time?
  8. Posting sleeping selfies. For the record, I can’t believe sleeping selfies are a thing. Unless you’re camping with your family or having a sleepover with your girlfriends, having one posted online is probably going to turn off potential boyfriends. He’s going to wonder who took it and assume it was another guy. With that, his crush on you will quickly fade away.
  9. Having an account full of nothing but selfies. Like it or not, there is such a thing as taking too many selfies. I know that they’re fun, but for crying out loud, mix it up a bit. It’s no different from an Instagram account consisting of 800 pictures of your cat. If all you do is take selfies (even cute ones), people looking at your social media will think you’re boring and uninventive. It may seem superficial, but most guys will think twice before getting involved with a selfie-addict.
  10. Posting crying photos. Why anyone would want to post a photo of themselves crying is beyond me. From a guy’s perspective, it’s not what you want to see on the page of a girl you might like. In addition to being a little weird, it just makes you seem tragic and attention-seeking. That may not be the case, but that’s how a lot of guys will interpret it. More importantly, those usually aren’t traits we look for in a girlfriend.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.