9 Texts You Should Be Sending When You’re In The Early Stages Of A Relationship

Our smartphones are pretty much the main way we communicate with the people in our lives, and this is definitely the case in the dating scene. Whether you met online or in person, chances are much of your interaction, at least at first, will be via text. When you’re trying to keep it light and flirty with your new potential partner, here are a few texts you should think of sending early in the relationship.

  1. A simple “good morning” or “goodnight” text. This type of message is totally simple but the payoff is enormous. It’s always nice to know that the person you’re dating is thinking of you as soon as they open their eyes/at the very end of their day, and it’s guaranteed to leave a smile on their face every time. Plus, it takes five seconds of your time so even if you’re super busy, there’s no excuse for not doing this. These are texts for early on in your relationship and basically for as long as it continues.
  2. “What are you passionate about?” Everyone likes talking about their hobbies and passions and if you’re really into someone, you should love hearing about it. This is especially true in the early stages of a relationship—that’s the whole point of starting one! By sending this text, it gives the other person an opportunity to share a bit about themselves without feeling like they’re boasting. This gives you a bit to go on, as well. Maybe you share some passions or you discover something new you knew nothing about.
  3. “You kept me smiling all day.” Obviously, you shouldn’t say this if it’s not true, but if it is, have at it. Who wouldn’t want to hear that they’re the cause of someone else’s happiness, especially someone they (hopefully) want to be in a long-term relationship with? It lets them know they’re becoming more constant in your daily thought process which, if the relationship is progressing and you’re both on the same page, is essential.
  4. “Tell me a secret.” It’s straightforward and right to the point. When you’re first getting to know someone, there’s a lot you don’t know about them. You don’t need to dig deep during every single conversation, but if you feel like you’ve covered the bases and are ready to turn to more serious topics, this is a good starter and could result in some eye-opening and fun revelations. Just make sure you’re willing to follow up with a secret or two of your own.
  5. “So, when do I get to see you again?” Instead of seeming too intense or overeager to plan the next date, this comes off a little less micromanage-y and a bit more laid-back. Things need to continue to stay light and fluffy early on, so this indicates you want to hang out again but it’s more about seeing the actual person than what you two do. Plus, it leaves the floor open for them to suggest something or throw the ball back in your court.
  6. “This song/video/clip/article reminded me of you.” It’s normal to get excited to share the stuff you love with someone new, but instead of bombarding them with a playlist or newsreel of your favorite things, it’s probably better to steer them toward something you think they’re truly going to find interesting.
  7. “Should we move this conversation to…?” If the text conversation is consistently flowing, you should really try to bring the talk into the real world if you can. If it’s been made clear that they’re free and just hanging out at home, try and suggest a casual coffee or something to mix things up a bit. Now, you need to be prepared that they may say no, but chances are if they’re into you and don’t have some other engagement, they’ll be totally down to get together.
  8. “You. Me. Dinner. 8.” Of course including the location is essential, but sometimes you just need to take the reigns and get straight to the point. This may not work for everyone but frankly, if they really like you and are eager to get to know you, they’ll jump on the opportunity to hang out. This is your chance to take control and show that you’re ready to jump into something real with them. If they are too, this could be a game changer.
  9. A meme that made you laugh. Now that it’s been confirmed that memes are officially a love language, it’s time to make them a big part of your early relationship texts. Not only will they put a smile on the other person’s face, but they’ll also keep the levity and humor in your relationship going strong. Laughter is so important, and sharing that will help strengthen your bond and keep it that way.
  10. “I’m really loving getting to know you.” This is simple, heartfelt, and you might feel a bit corny for saying it. So what? Sincerity is totally underrated these days. This should be one of those texts you not only send early in your relationship but as it progresses, too. You should always be uncovering new and interesting things about your partner, and showing appreciation when you do is a good thing.
jordan is a writer from salt lake city who enjoys a good steak, her dog, and conversations about how radiohead is awesome. she hopes to be a talking head on some VH1 pop-culture show someday and can curate a playlist for any occasion. when she grows up she wants to be an olsen twin.