Things Extroverts Do That Introverts Can’t Stand

If you’re an introvert, you know the struggle. Extroverts are a different breed – loud, social, and seemingly powered by endless energy. While their enthusiasm can be contagious, there are times when their extroverted ways hit a nerve. Get ready to nod in agreement – here are the things extroverts do that drive introverts absolutely bonkers.

1. They assume everyone loves small talk.

Extroverts dive headfirst into small talk without a second thought. For introverts, it’s like nails on a chalkboard. They’d rather skip the weather chat and jump straight to meaningful conversation. It’s not that they hate talking – they just prefer depth over surface-level chitchat. Besides, there’s only so much you can say about the weather, right?

2. They assume silence is awkward.

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Extroverts feel the need to fill every moment of silence with words. For introverts, silence is golden. They cherish quiet moments and use them to recharge. It’s not that they’re uncomfortable – they just appreciate the beauty of shared silence. Sometimes, the best conversations happen without saying a word.

3. They plan spontaneous outings.

Extroverts thrive on spontaneity, but introverts need time to mentally prepare. When extroverts spring last-minute plans, introverts feel overwhelmed. It’s not that they don’t want to hang out – they just need a heads-up to get in the right mindset. Plus, a little advance notice gives them something to look forward to.

4. They expect instant responses.

Extroverts expect immediate replies to texts and messages. Introverts value thoughtful responses over rapid-fire exchanges. It’s not that they’re ignoring you – they’re just taking their time to craft a meaningful reply. After all, good things come to those who wait, right?

5. They assume everyone enjoys crowds.

Extroverts love bustling gatherings, but introverts find them draining. They’d rather cozy up with a book than navigate a sea of people. It’s not that they’re antisocial – they just prefer intimate gatherings over large crowds. After all, quality over quantity, right?

6. They act like introverts need “fixing.”

Extroverts see introversion as a problem to be solved. They push introverts out of their comfort zones in the name of “helping.” It’s not that introverts need fixing – they’re perfectly content with who they are. Sometimes, embracing introversion is the best solution.

7. They interrupt conversations all the time.

Extroverts often interrupt conversations to share their thoughts. Introverts find it rude and frustrating. They value active listening and uninterrupted dialogue. It’s not that they don’t care about your input – they just appreciate the courtesy of waiting their turn to speak. Plus, interrupting is like hitting pause on a good song – it disrupts the flow.

8. They act like introverts are boring.

Extroverts equate introversion with dullness, but introverts have rich inner worlds. They’d rather dive deep into meaningful discussions than engage in superficial banter. It’s not that they’re boring – they just have different interests and priorities. After all, variety is the spice of life, right?

9. They pressure introverts to be more “outgoing.”

Extroverts urge introverts to be more outgoing, but introverts thrive in quieter settings. They’d rather be authentic than pretend to be something they’re not. It’s not that they’re shy or lacking confidence – they simply prefer meaningful connections over surface-level interactions. Plus, forcing them to be something they’re not feels like trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.

10. They think introverts are “too serious.”

Extroverts mistake introverted demeanor for seriousness. But introverts have a playful side too – they just express it differently. It’s not that they’re uptight – they simply value depth and authenticity in their interactions. Plus, seriousness is overrated – life’s too short not to have a little fun.

11. They think introverts are lonely.

Extroverts assume introverts are lonely, but introverts cherish their alone time. They use it to recharge and pursue their interests. It’s not that they’re anti-social – they simply prioritize quality over quantity when it comes to socializing. Plus, being alone doesn’t mean being lonely – sometimes, it’s exactly what they need.

12. They talk over introverts without hesitation.

Extroverts tend to have dominant personalities and think out loud. Sometimes this means an introvert barely gets a word in edgewise. It’s not always on purpose – extroverts get passionate! But it can leave introverts feeling drowned out and frustrated.

13. They constantly mistake shyness for rudeness.

An introvert’s silence isn’t rudeness; it’s processing time. Extroverts might view their quiet demeanor as standoffish or boring, but that’s just not the case. Introverts might need a moment to warm up or prefer thoughtful observation over speaking up at every opportunity. What’s wrong with that?

14. They don’t respect introverts’ need for “me time.”

Extroverts get energized by being around people, so the idea of wanting to be alone might baffle them. But for introverts, alone time is pure magic. It’s how they recharge their batteries and restore their inner calm. So when an extrovert insists on dragging an introvert out when they just need a chill night in, sparks can fly.

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Gail is Bolde's social media and partnership manager, as well as an all-around behind-the-scenes renaissance woman. She worked for more than 25 years in her city's local government before making the switch to women's lifestyle and relationship sites, initially at HelloGiggles before making the switch to Bolde.
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