Here’s Why You Should Only Think About Marriage When You Hit Your 30s

It’s easy to get caught up in the marriage rush by thinking you have to find your forever person ASAP, but if you’re still in your 20s, here’s why you should chill out and enjoy being single and having fun with dating, at least until you’re 30.

You’ll regret it if you don’t.

That’s one of the simplest and biggest reasons you should enjoy your single life in your 20s is that you’ll regret it if you don’t. One day, you’ll be older and you won’t have as much freedom in your life as you do now, and you’ll wish you had lived life much more instead of putting so much pressure on yourself to find someone.

You’re probably not going to find a 20-something forever guy.

Sorry to burst your bubble, but it’s true when they say women mature faster than men. Expecting a guy who’s 22 to want to have something serious and long-lasting is pointless really. Wait a bit longer to meet the serious, more stable guys who are in their 30s. It’ll be worth it.

You have things to do.

Seriously, your 20s are super-crucial. You should be having fun, but you should also be spending time figuring out who you want to be, where you want to work, what you want to achieve. You don’t need someone to get in the way of all that and distract you from your greatness.

You could be wrong about your type.

You know yourself and what you want? Great. But are you sure? If you’re in your 20s, maybe you haven’t been dating all that long or maybe you’ve only dated a certain type of guy. Basically, although you might think that kind of guy is perfect for you, it’s best to take the time to explore. Date around a bit. Go on a date with the artist and the corporate guy. See what it’s like to go for the free-spirited dude versus the serious one. Take your time to see who’s really right for you, bearing in mind that guys who seem perfect can often surprise you.

You don’t have to be so serious.

It’s really easy to get caught up in the idea that you have to be in a serious relationship, but don’t buy into the pressure. Having a relationship doesn’t make you or your life more valuable, and the sooner you realize that the better off your dating life will be in the future.

You should learn to be on your own.

Now’s the perfect time to flex your independent muscles. The sooner you learn to be on your own and love it, as well as not need someone in your life to make it better, the better your life will be. If you can’t be alone in your 20s, then what about your 30s and beyond? You don’t want to live your life constantly looking for someone to complete you. You’re worth so much more than that.

Good guys aren’t extinct.

You might think that there are only jerks and a-holes out there, and it sure as hell feels like that a lot of the time, but it’s just not realistic. In the same way that you’re awesome, it makes sense that there will be awesome guys out there to meet. Don’t stress about trying to lock one down right now. Besides, the bad guys can be fun to date in your 20s.

Focus on experiences, not just the destination. 

It’s rare to find people who meet in high school and get married. Most people’s dating lives are all over the place, sure to take them on an exciting journey. The key is to make the most of it while you’re still young and enjoying yourself. Instead of worrying so much about the final destination, focus on making the most of the dating experiences you have right now. Your 20s will never come around again. It’s a shame to waste them.

You’ve got plenty of time. seriously.

Don’t stress about when you’ll meet your perfect partner. That might not happen for years, so don’t act as though you’re running out of time. You’re still so young and you have your whole life ahead of you. There’s plenty of time for serious stuff, like meeting your forever person, at a later stage. I mean, why would you even want to be tied down to anyone right now?

You can invest in other things.

Instead of getting serious about love, get serious about loving your life. Invest your time and money in things other than dating (hey, those dates can be expensive). Invest in education, in a stable career, invest money for the future, and invest in your friendships because those will probably stick around for longer than what’s-his-face.

You’ll complete yourself.

Instead of waiting for someone to complete you, take the time to complete yourself. Discover who you are, learn about yourself and figure out what you want out of life. This not only makes you complete and confident, but it’ll make you an amazing girlfriend to a lucky guy down the line. But more importantly than that, it’ll make you love yourself so you don’t get into the wrong relationships. Basically, you’ll be empowered, and I guarantee that’s so much more valuable than finding someone who loves you.

 

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