15 Traits Society Thinks Are Weaknesses But Are Actually Strengths

15 Traits Society Thinks Are Weaknesses But Are Actually Strengths

There are a lot of qualities that generally get a bad rap in life, written off as weaknesses that you should either hide from the world or eradicate completely. The problem is that a lot of these traits are actually not negative at all — in fact, they’re major strengths that make you a more complex, evolved human being. Here are some of the characteristics that are often unfairly targeted.

1. Emotional Openness

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Some people think showing your feelings is a sign of weakness, but let me tell you, it’s just the opposite. Being open about your emotions takes guts, and it helps you connect with others on a deeper, more genuine level with the people around you. Without it, you’ll always be holding people at a distance and no one will ever truly know you.

2. Introversion

A lot of people mistake introverts as shy or antisocial, but that’s not the case. Introverts often have a deep understanding of themselves and others. They’re the people who listen when you need to talk and offer up some seriously insightful thoughts when you least expect it.

3. Sensitivity

Sensitivity might seem like a bad thing to some people, and it can be if taken to the extreme, but in general, it’s a gift. Sure, you might feel things deeply, but that means you’re more attuned to other people’s feelings. That’s a superpower in my book. It allows you not only to put yourself in other people’s shoes and sympathize with them, but by doing so, you also grow and evolve as a person yourself. It’s a win-win situation!

4. Patience

In our gotta-have-it-now culture, patience can seem like a snooze fest. But really, being patient gives you the resilience to stick with things, the calm to make thoughtful decisions, and the peace of mind to enjoy the journey. It’s like being your own personal Zen master. Sometimes you really can’t rush a good thing — knowing that it’s okay to wait (and maybe even better that way) is really important and will serve you well.

5. Self-Doubt

Okay, so self-doubt isn’t fun, but a little bit can actually keep you on your toes. It keeps you humble, open to feedback, and hungry to get better. It also helps you make better choices, as you regularly do check-ins to assess the decisions you’re making and whether or not they serve you well. The more you question yourself, the more conviction you’re able to have as a result.

6. Being Overly Cautious

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Some people might confuse being cautious with being scared, but thinking things through before you act is actually pretty smart. You’re less likely to make mistakes and more likely to make well-thought-out decisions. Sure, you don’t want to go so far with it that you never take risks and end up missing out on some great stuff in life, but in general, this is a good thing!

7. Being Easily Moved to Tears

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So you cry at the drop of a hat — big deal! Crying easily and often just means you feel things deeply. You’ve got a big heart full of compassion and understanding, and that’s a good thing. It means you’re not compartmentalizing your emotions or bottling them up, only for them to explode down the line.

8. Generosity

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Being generous might make you feel like a pushover, but actually, it takes a strong person to give freely of their time, energy, or resources. You’re the kind of person who makes other people want to be better. So many people in this world are way too selfish and self-centered. Someone who isn’t is a total gem.

12. Admitting You’re Wrong

It might sting to admit you’re wrong, but doing so shows you’ve got integrity and a willingness to learn. It’s a trait that earns respect and builds trust. There’s nothing worse than someone who refuses to take accountability for their actions because they’re afraid it’ll make them look bad. In reality, it’s stubbornly insisting you’re always right that does that!

13. Asking for Help

Asking for help can feel like admitting defeat, but it’s actually a sign of strength. It shows you know your limits and aren’t too proud to seek support when you need it. It also demonstrates humility and an acceptance of your own limitations, both of which make you way more likable, relatable, and human.

14. Being Quiet

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Quiet people often get overlooked, but while they’re hanging back, they’re observing, reflecting, and soaking up information. When they do speak up, you can bet it’s going to be something worth hearing. They’re powerful simply because they know when to use their words and when to keep them to themselves.

15. Being Kind

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Kindness is sometimes mistaken for weakness, but being kind, especially when the world doesn’t always return the favor, takes strength and resilience. It’s like carrying a little bit of sunshine in your pocket, always ready to brighten someone’s day. How could that ever be a bad thing?

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Originally from Australia, Emma Mills graduated from the University of Queensland with a dual degree in Philosophy and Applied Linguistics before moving to Los Angeles to become a professional matchmaker (a bit of a shift, obviously). Since 2015, she has helped more than 150 people find lasting love and remains passionate about bringing amazing singletons together.

Emma is also the author of the upcoming Hachette publication, "Off the Beaten Track: Finding Lasting Love in the Least Likely of Places," due out in January 2025.