We All Want True Love, But What’s The Rush?

We All Want True Love, But What’s The Rush? ©iStock/Neyya

We can be in such a rush to find true love and settle down, but what happened to appreciating the single life? Being single is all about your freedom — that is, the ability to do whatever you want, whenever you want. So soak it in, because when you’re officially off the market, you’ll miss these 10 things:

  1. Eating what you want. You have no one else to consider. Whether you eat in or go out, you pick the restaurant, and you pick the food. It’s all about you, and in feels pretty damn good, both in your head and in your stomach.
  2. Watching whatever you want. You’re the captain of your television, the queen of the remote. Don’t like sports? Don’t watch them. Binge your favorite TV shows all not long or be a channel surfer — the only opinion that matters here is yours.
  3. Me time. It’s not just about doing the stuff you want to do, it’s about doing the stuff you need to do. When there’s always a man around, it’s hard to find time for the personal perks of womanhood. I’m talking hair removal, face masks, and teeth whitening, just to name a few.
  4. Refusing to get ready. As much as grooming your body can feel good, it can feel pretty damn great to not do anything at all. If you don’t want to shower until 3 in the afternoon, who cares? And then if you choose to sit in the towel for another hour, that’s all on you. Wear sweats all day, don’t shave, and don’t even put on a bra. You do you, and no one is judging.
  5. Waking up when you want. Sleep ‘til noon, just because you can — well, on the weekends, anyway. Your day is up to you and there’s no one there nagging you to get up and get your life together. Your day starts when you decide it does, and if you don’t want to go to bed until 4 am, that’s your own prerogative.
  6. Sleeping alone. For some reason, this is always thought of as a negative, but just think about it. No really, think about it — the whole bed to yourself. You control the heat, you control the sound, and you control the pillow count. To sum it up, you’re in control of your own comfort.
  7. Making your own plans. To go or not to go — that’s the question and it’s up to you. Stay in all night or go out at the last minute. You don’t have to check in with anyone else, because your time belongs to you.
  8. Not having in-laws. You have a special relationship with your own family. You can be blunt and honest without worrying about hurt feelings, because when it comes to in-laws, you constantly have to play nice while someone else tells you how to live your life.
  9. No holiday pressure. Not only the pressure of seeing your in-laws, but also of finding the perfect gift for your man. It’s not just Christmas and Valentine’s Day; there are also birthdays and anniversaries to contend with. No thanks!
  10. New relationships. First kisses, butterflies, getting to know each other… it’s all a part of something new. When you settle down, it’s final. Sure, you have new firsts, but the excitement of starting something new is irreplaceable.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.