If you’re genuinely hoping for a relationship, you deserve better than to put up with some guy who says he wants to date you but also continue to play the field simultaneously. Dating is a frustrating process and even if it seems like you need to act carefree and pretend to be okay with a certain level of BS if you don’t want to be single AF forever, that’s BS. If love is what you want, don’t waste a moment more of your time with any guy who still wants to continue to see other people — here’s why you should see yourself out of his life instead.
You deserve to find what you’re looking for.
If you’re on this journey to find the guy you’ll spend the rest of your life with, you shouldn’t have to put your own self-respect aside just to try and hold on to a glimmer of hope with a guy who isn’t giving you a fair shot. If you know what you want from a relationship and he isn’t meeting your needs, wish him good luck on his way — without you.
You’re looking for a genuinely meaningful beginning.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting the beginning of your love story to be something truly meaningful and a story you take pride in. This is the story you’re going to brag about to your friends, at your wedding and to your grandkids someday. You have every right to hope it’s a good one — not one that goes something like, “I was part of his harem and then he finally picked me because I hung around until everyone else dropped out.” Screw that.
He can’t have his cake and eat it too.
It’s hurtful when you think you’re having a great time getting to know a new guy and when you finally start to feel like you’re really building a strong connection, he’s still entertaining the idea of other women. If he wants to be with someone other than you, tell him to have at it, but he can’t have both. You’re a one-woman show.
You have the choice whether to play with a player.
It’s totally within your own control whether or not you want to stay involved with a guy who’s still keeping his options open, but keep in mind that if you’re fully committed to seeing only him and he’s not on the same page, he’s only playing you for a fool. Don’t be that girl.
He’s not ready for a real commitment.
It’s very likely that any guy who pulls this type of BS behavior isn’t just selfish, he’s also not ready to lock into a relationship anytime soon. It’s pretty simple logic that when someone is truly into you, they won’t need anyone else in the equation to satisfy their needs — you’ll be enough.
Your time is valuable — don’t waste it on someone who doesn’t value it.
Why waste your time with some bonehead who doesn’t realize how amazing you are when you can be investing your time into someone who’s actually capable of giving a crap about you and doesn’t need convincing? Use your time wisely on someone else.
The right guy won’t question whether he’s content with just you.
Some guys will try to convince you that they still need to date and sleep with other women to truly figure out their feelings for you, but don’t buy into this BS. How long does a personal realistically need? If after a month of dating he’s still not convinced, he needs a VIP ticket to Breakup City.
If he’s made his choice, make yours an even better one.
If he’s not willing to offer you a real commitment and he’s made the choice to do whatever he wants with no regard for how it makes you feel, you should be making the choice to leave his loser ass behind. Life is far too short to waste on some idiot who doesn’t know what he wants when you know what you do- he’s not on your level.
It’s not a game, he’s just a loser.
This dating stuff isn’t really that hard. It’s a simple concept, really. When you meet someone you genuinely like and want to continue to get to know them and build something even better, you cut out anyone who might hinder that progress. It’s that simple. When did we start making all these other excuses?
Real love is quality over quantity.
Any guy who’s playing the game of quantity over quality doesn’t deserve a quality woman like yourself in the first place. You know what you want, so why are you settling for some jerk who doesn’t appreciate and value what he could have with you? You’re smart enough to know better than to put yourself second.
He’s not the right one for you.
It sucks, but this scenario happens a lot these days and you can’t let it get you down. You’re going to meet guys who don’t want to commit and who are far too into the lifestyle of numbers rather than finding an amazing plus one. Do yourself a favor and if he wants to continue to see other people, see yourself out of his life ASAP. You’re in for someone much better than him, so keep moving towards that.
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