It might take a while to get to know your boyfriend inside and out, but there are some behaviors that don’t require you to be a genius to decode. Even if he tells you he loves you every day, if he does any of these things, it’s pretty clear he doesn’t actually give a crap about you:
He dismisses your emotions.
If he doesn’t make an effort to recognize and validate your feelings and he rejects them flat-out, it doesn’t only mean that he’s cold and heartless — it’s also him saying that how you feel doesn’t matter to him at all.
He manages to make everything your fault.
Yes, you have control over how you’ll respond to him in any given situation, but if he constantly makes your feelings out to be your fault, he basically doesn’t have the balls and isn’t man enough to address the reasons behind your feelings and work with you like a grown man and good partner should.
He doesn’t listen when you talk.
Sure, there are going to be certain things he just doesn’t care about, like shopping or girl gossip, but that doesn’t mean he should ever tune you out when you’re speaking. When he isn’t all ears when you’re talking and this behavior continues after you’ve called his attention, it’s an obvious sign that he’s not even remotely interested of what you have to say.
You don’t get a say — he makes all the decisions.
Checking in with you to hear your thoughts and opinions on something that affects both of you is the least he could do. Pretending to hear you out just so you’ll think your opinions matter is another thing. If you notice him doing the latter and he ends up calling the shots without asking if you’re OK with it, then it’s another sign that he doesn’t care about you.
He doesn’t make an effort to do “couple things” with you.
He doesn’t need to plan candlelit dinners or bring you flowers, but he should at least make an effort to make you feel special, adored, pampered and loved by making time to date you and spend quality time with you. If all your dates and getaways happen only because you do all the planning and prep, you’re with someone who obviously isn’t as invested in the relationship as you.
He doesn’t make a move to get to know you more.
Even if you’ve been together for ages, chances are there’s always something about you that he doesn’t know yet. There are stories you haven’t told him and there are many more memories you can share with him. He should be perpetually curious about these if he’s really into you. When he’s not, he may have grown tired of you already.
He isn’t moved when other guys get your attention.
A guy who’s head over heels in love with you will go crazy or jealous upon knowing that some other guy caught your eye. If he doesn’t ask or doesn’t show any signs that he’s bothered with a possible competition out there, you can bet he really doesn’t care about you.
He doesn’t make you a priority.
Let’s face it. Life has a terrible sense of timing sometimes but like the old adage says, “If there’s a will, there’s a way.” If he always has excuses and he never puts in extra effort to be with you because “he’s busy,” it may be high time for you to be with someone who won’t treat you as an option but a priority all the time (because you’re too good for him and he doesn’t deserve you).
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