What He Does On Social Media Says A Lot About How He Feels About Your Relationship

Social media is a great way to keep up with the people we care about but it can also lead to unhealthy obsessions with what others are doing and be the reason we self-sabotage our own relationships. While it can seem impossible to decipher what his social media activity really means, there are some things he may be doing online that reveal exactly how he feels about you.

  1. He tweets lyrics that seem like they have nothing to do with you. However, when you reread them, you wonder if they actually do. Lyrics on Twitter or Facebook statuses even should be taken with a grain of salt. I know it seems like every lyric he tweets might be about you… and maybe it is, but more often than not, when a guy posts lyrics online, he just likes the song. Don’t read into lyrics—unless he tags you in the post, then go ahead and read into them.
  2. He likes your Instagram selfies/tweets occasionally, but not every single one. Does your guy not like every Instagram you post or every thought you tweet out and just occasionally engages with you online? This is actually a good thing. He’s probably not liking your every Instagram or every tweet because he hasn’t seen every one of them. He isn’t constantly on social media and doesn’t feel the need to check up on you all the time online, which means he trusts you and is secure in your relationship.
  3. He’s posting statuses about and couple selfies all the time and even encourages you to do the same. It may seem cute if your guy is posting about you online, but this could actually be a negative thing if it’s constantly happening and/or if he doesn’t post anything else but you. If he posts about you occasionally, that’s cute and great, but if it’s 24/7, it’s going a little overboard and may be a sign of jealousy and insecurity.
  4. He complains about you on social media. If he posts about fights you get into or subtweets aggressively about you (especially if it’s obviously about you), this is not only annoying and frustrating but really immature. Disagreements and even occasional arguments are normal in relationships, but posting about it for the world to see isn’t. In my opinion, this should be a deal breaker. He also might be looking for attention, either from you or from other people.
  5. He takes forever to text you back but tweets multiple times per day and is always posting Snapchat stories. This means exactly what you think it means (but probably don’t want to admit): he doesn’t care about you as much as he should and as much as you deserve. He’s also probably seeking attention from outside sources. If you’re worried about why he’s not texting you back when he’s clearly all over social media, it means you’re more invested in the relationship than he is, and you deserve better than that.
  6. He likes statuses or pictures that his ex posts on a semi-regular basis. This is definitely a red flag. Sure, maybe they were able to stay friends after the relationship ended.. or maybe he still has feelings for her, and that’s why he’s liking her posts online, to see if he gets any reaction or response from her. Either way, it’s definitely annoying to see him like his ex’s posts, and it’s disrespectful that he’s doing it regularly. It may mean he’s not over her, and it definitely means he doesn’t prioritize your feelings.
  7. He follows a lot of random accounts that post pictures of hot girls or girls wearing thongs/bikinis. This might seem kind of concerning, but it’s actually more innocent than you might think, especially if it’s girls he will never meet/doesn’t know in real life. This alone is not an indication of his feelings for you and your relationship.
  8. He Instagrams more selfies than you do (or any of your friends do, either). Overdoing it with selfies is a big no, no matter who’s the one snapping and posting, but if your guy posts more selfies than you (or any of your girlfriends do), he’s clearly more into himself than he is into you, and is looking for attention from other people. He might also have a huge ego and be self-absorbed, but these are not necessarily traits you want to find in the person you’re dating. Extreme amounts of selfies (AKA showing off on social media) means he’s looking for other people to compliment him and give him attention when he should only need attention from you.
  9. Random girls are always commenting on his social media accounts and he entertains it by commenting back and/or liking their comments. It’s nothing to freak out about if random girls that you don’t know are liking his pictures occasionally or a comment from another female pops up on his status from time to time. However, if it’s happening all the time, if it’s the same girls commenting and liking over and over, or if he’s commenting back and liking their comments, this is a red flag. He might be trying to make you jealous or he might be cheating on you (or thinking about it, at least). He’s not as committed to you or your relationship as you are, and you deserve someone who’s only interested in you.
Kerry is a freelance writer from Boston, Massachusetts who now lives in the Sunshine State with the love of her life and her 15 month old daughter. She writes frequently about her personal experiences (find more of her work on www.followmetogetlost.wordpress.com). She has an Etsy shop with cute items: https://www.etsy.com/shop/FollowMeToGetLostWhen she's not writing, she loves to spend time outside, at the beach, and with her family.