What Is A High Value Man And How The Hell Do You Find One?

If you’re a straight woman looking for love, you know all too well how hard it is to find a great guy. While you try to remain optimistic, the human dumpster fires you date sometimes really try your patience. Luckily, we’re here to help. It’s time to truly define what a high value man is, what he stands for, and how you can find one for yourself.

What is a high value man, anyway?

In terms of a relationship, a high value man is basically the ideal partner. He’s someone who’s respectful, supportive, and committed to building a strong and healthy relationship. (What a rarity!) Generally speaking, he has all the characteristics of a person who’s mature, self-aware, and ready to be a good partner.

A high value man also values his partner’s happiness and well-being and is willing to put in the effort and time to ensure the relationship is fulfilling for both partners. He is typically emotionally mature, able to handle difficult situations with grace and composure, and willing to take responsibility for his actions and decisions.

That being said, what makes a man high value really depends on the individual preferences and values of his partner. Of course, it’s important to remember that everyone has their own unique strengths and qualities that make them valuable partners. It’s not really so much a checklist of characteristics as it is an overall good guy with good vibes.

What are the traits of a high value man?

1. He knows how to communicate clearly and directly.

A high value man doesn’t beat around the bush, and he also doesn’t clam up every time you try to talk to him. He knows how to say what he means and he always means what he says. He knows talking about things is the only way to work through them.

2. He’s honest and values his integrity.

He’s not a liar, that’s for sure. While some guys might bend the truth to avoid confrontation, a high value man never does. He’d rather upset you or make you angry than lie to your face. He values his word.

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4. He’s emotionally mature and has a high emotional IQ.

He knows how to handle difficult situations with grace and composure. Plus, he takes responsibility for his actions and decisions. He doesn’t pass the buck to anyone else. He owns it.

5. He’s financially stable.

He might not make big bucks, but his finances are on lock. He’s responsible with money — his bills are paid, he’s not in tons of debt, and he even has a bit of savings for the future.

6. He’s ambitious and self-motivated.

A high value man has dreams and goals and he pursues them with passion and determination. He knows what he’s capable of and what he wants and he won’t stop until he gets it. That’s hot.

7. He’s empathetic and compassionate.

A high value man knows how to empathize with his partner and show compassion and kindness, even in difficult times. He doesn’t get nasty or shut you down when he doesn’t understand or agree with you. Instead, he puts himself in your shoes.

8. He’s independent and self-sufficient.

You definitely don’t want a guy you have to babysit and support full-time. Thankfully, a high value man has his own life and is happy doing his own thing. That makes for an equal partnership rather than an unbalanced one.

9. He’s respectful and supportive.

A guy who starts insulting you or belittling you when he’s angry, drunk, annoyed, or whatever is not the one. You want a guy who’s supportive and respects you at all times. That’s what a high value man brings to the table.

10. He’s trustworthy and reliable.

While there are plenty of flaky people out there, a high value man keeps his word. If he says he’ll be somewhere or do something, he is and he does. No questions asked. You also know you can trust him not to hurt or betray you. What a relief!

11. He’s self-aware and always working on self-growth.

He’s self-aware and committed to personal growth, working on his weaknesses and striving to be the best version of himself. Even more, he inspires you to do the same.

12. He’s family-oriented.

A high value man values family and is committed to building a strong and loving family unit with his partner. That being said, this applies even if you don’t want kids. He’s also close with his family, treating them with care and respect. A guy who loves his mom is kinda the best.

13. He has healthy boundaries.

He understands the importance of healthy boundaries and is able to communicate and respect his partner’s. For this reason, you know you’re always safe in his hands.

14. He’s open-minded and adaptable.

A high value man is open-minded and adaptable, willing to try new things and learn from his experiences.

How can you find one?

1. Define what you want.

Take the time to define what you’re looking for in a partner. This means their values, personality, interests, and lifestyle. Figuring this out will help you focus your search and identify potential matches. You’ll basically never find a high value guy without this in place.

2. Focus on yourself.

Work on becoming the best version of yourself by pursuing your own goals, hobbies, and interests. This will make you more attractive to potential partners and increase your confidence. Plus, it keeps you from getting too obsessed with your relationship status.

3. Expand your social circle.

Join groups or communities that align with your interests. In addition, you can attend events or activities that allow you to meet new people. This will increase your chances of meeting someone who shares your interests and values.

4. Use dating apps wisely.

Dating apps can be a great way to meet new people, but it’s important to be selective and use them wisely. Make sure to choose an app that aligns with your personality and preferences, and take the time to craft a thoughtful and authentic profile. Also, skip the guys with one-line bios or who think they’re comedians in their profiles. They’re bad news and definitely not high value guys.

5. Be open-minded.

Don’t be too rigid in your expectations and give people a chance. You never know who you might connect with and where it could lead. Allow yourself to be surprised!

6. Practice good communication.

Be honest and transparent in your communication with potential partners, and make sure to listen actively and respond thoughtfully. While it’s normal to want this in a guy, it’s also important to be able to offer it in return.

7. Take your time.

For one thing, don’t rush into a relationship just for the sake of being in one. Even if you really like him, take the time to get to know the guy and make sure that you’re both on the same page before committing to a serious relationship. Obviously, caution is the best way forward. Given that love takes time, take time on it. If it’s right, it’s right — you don’t need to rush it. Trust that things will work out.

Phoebe Mertens is a writer, speaker, and strategist who has helped dozens of female-founded and led companies reach success in areas such a finance, tech, science, and fashion. Her keen eye for detail and her innovative approach to modern womanhood makes her one of the most sought-out in her industry, and there's nothing she loves more than to see these companies shine.

With an MBA from NYU's Stern School of Business and features in Forbes and Fast Company she Phoebe has proven she knows her stuff. While she doesn't use social media, she does have a private Instagram just to look at pictures of cats.