If you’re single and frustrated as hell about it, you might wonder if there’s anything you could be doing differently to change your luck. While there’s nothing wrong with you or your approach to dating, the 5 crush method doing the rounds on TikTok right now might just be the revolution your love life needs. Here’s what it is and how you can try it yourself. You might be surprised at how effective it is!
What is TikTok’s 5 Crush Method?
Created by TikTok user and comedian/actor Madeleine Chalk, the 5 crush method can reportedly revolutionize your dating life the way it did for her and her friends. You just have to try it and find out.
While you might assume that the “5 crush method” is suggesting that you date that many people simultaneously, that’s not the case at all. However, it does mean that you need to have five crushes — no more, no less! — at a given time.
By “crushes,” she’s quick to explain that these don’t need to be major love connections. They could be anyone from that hot person at the gym you always see or even someone at work who makes you laugh. Anyone who you could potentially be compatible with and you think is pretty cool will do. If you wouldn’t be totally grossed out by the idea of doing on a date with them, they count.
The idea here is that the TikTok 5 crush method helps lower the stakes of dating and opens up your options so that you’re constantly reminded of the fact that there are plenty of fish in the sea, so to speak. Apparently, everyone she knows who has tried it has absolutely loved it.
How can the 5 crush method change your dating life?
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Admittedly, while having crushes is fun, it doesn’t really advance your love life on the surface. You’re looking for a long-term partner, not puppy love. However, if you follow the TikTok 5 crush method to the T, you might be shocked at how effective it is.
- It takes the pressure off. Dating is very high stakes, especially as you’re getting older. The TikTok 5 crush method is all about taking the pressure off. Dating is supposed to be fun. By having multiple potential dates, you’re pretty much sure to find someone you’d enjoy hanging out with. It doesn’t matter if one person isn’t interested, because you have four more crushes to try.
- It gives you more options. Settling on dating one person exclusively because it’s better than being alone is not a good thing. Having five crushes gives you five different options to pick between. If the five people on your list are very different, you might even realize that you don’t actually have a “type,” which opens up the dating pool even more. That’s pretty exciting.
- You’ll be less likely to ignore red flags or get attached too quickly. When you only have one person on your dating roster, you might be more inclined to overlook red flags or hang onto a situation that’s not working because it’s better than being alone. Don’t do it! The 5 crush method means you’ll be cool cutting off a connection that’s not working. You don’t need to force things because there are other people you’d be into getting to know.
- You can move on more quickly if they or you aren’t feeling it. If you date one of your crushes and things don’t work out, it’s not as much of a bummer when you have four others to go out with. That’s not to say that you should just avoid emotional attachment to people or move on too quickly. However, realizing that this person wasn’t the be-all, end-all is pretty great.
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Whether or not the 5 crush method will work for you is anyone’s guess. Chalk certainly thinks it will. And anyway, it’s simple and easy enough and you have nothing to lose. You never know what might happen!
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