Why Guys Ignore You Even When They Like You

In most cases, it’s not a great sign when the person you like ignores you. This often means that they don’t feel the same and are trying to send the message without telling you directly. However, if you know for certain that a guy likes you, it’s possible that he could still ignore you. And there are a few reasons for that! Keep reading to find out why.

  1. They’re playing hard to get. One of the most common reasons why a guy who likes you is ignoring you is because he’s playing games with you. More specifically, he’s playing hard to get. He wants you to chase him so he can see how much you like him. While some people like the cat-and-mouse games in the beginning, this shouldn’t carry on for very long. If he ignores you for a long time, it’s likely that he’s not just playing hard to get. And if a guy is playing hard to get, he’s likely to stop ignoring you when you stop chasing him.
  2. They think they don’t have a chance with you. Sometimes a guy will ignore you because he thinks he doesn’t have a chance with you. He believes that if he were to pursue you, you would reject him. While that doesn’t stop every guy, it can stop those who are shy or worried about being rejected. Even though he might like you, he’ll act like he doesn’t because he doesn’t want to get hurt.
  3. They’re mad at you. It’s hard to ignore someone you like. But when you’re mad at them, sometimes you have no choice. It’s possible that the reason for his icy treatment is that you’ve done something to annoy him. Again, this won’t carry on forever and is likely to be over quickly, once he gets over it.
  4. They feel rejected by you. If a guy perceives that you’ve rejected him, he might try to get the power back by ignoring you. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you anymore. Rather, his feelings are so hurt, whether you really rejected him or not, that he’s lashing out at you.
  5. They’re too shy to talk to you. It’s possible that a guy who likes you is ignoring you because he’s just too shy to talk to you. He might not necessarily believe that you’re going to reject him. But he just can’t work up the courage to strike up a conversation with you. If you try talking to him first, this type of guy will stop ignoring you and take the opportunity to chat to you. Another clue that he’s too shy to talk to you is him staring at you when he thinks you’re not looking.
  6. There is a lot going on in their life. Although many people make their love lives a priority, the truth is that sometimes life gets in the way of romance. Evolved Woman Society reports that a guy might ignore you, even though he likes you, if there’s a lot going on in his life. He might not have the capacity to pursue you the way he wants right now, so he’s withdrawing altogether for the time being.
  7. Somebody else has their attention. Another reason why a guy who likes you would ignore you is that someone else has his attention. It is possible to be interested in more than one person! It could be that he would prefer to talk to you, but the other person is easier or more available to talk to. And since he does like them too, he’s just going with what’s easy.
  8. They are genuinely bad communicators. Some people are genuinely bad communicators. So it’s possible that he’s not even ignoring you at all. He could have forgotten to respond to your text, missed your call because his phone was on silent, and stayed off social media all night. Again, if this is the reason you haven’t heard from him, it’ll be a maximum of a few days before you do hear from him.
  9. They don’t want a relationship. According to Hack Spirit, a guy who likes you may ignore you when he doesn’t want a relationship. He may like you but be determined to stay single and keep his freedom. So he doesn’t bother talking to you because he knows where it will lead.
  10. They don’t like you enough. This isn’t the answer that anyone wants to hear. But sometimes, a guy just doesn’t like you enough to talk to you. He may like you a little bit, but talking to a potential romantic interest can be daunting. It’s possible that he just doesn’t like you enough to put the effort in and talk to you, even if he does like you a little bit.

How to get a guy who’s ignoring you to actually talk to you

To be frank, this isn’t really your responsibility at all. If he was a bit more mature and knew how to handle his emotions, he’d be able to talk to you despite being super into you. However, if you’re willing to be the bigger person here, there are a few things you can try to pull him out of his shell a bit.

  1. Give him a compliment. Everyone loves to be complimented, especially when you can tell the person means it. Boost his ego a bit by mentioning something he did that was impressive, something he wore that he looked great in, etc. He won’t help but be able to smile a bit and he might loosen up knowing that you have such a high opinion of him too.
  2. Ask for his help with something. Men are helpers by nature and want to feel like they can protect you. While you’re totally independent and can handle things on your own, when guys ignore you, one way to pull them back in is to act as though you need their assistance on something. And hey, maybe you actually do.
  3. Say his name a lot. There’s something really intimate about saying someone’s name a lot during conversation. Obviously you don’t want to do this so often that it seems weird/creepy, but peppering it in every once in a while can go a long way. Even better, if there’s a cute nickname you can come up with for him, that will totally win him over.
  4. Ask him to hang out sometime. Maybe this guy genuinely doesn’t realize that you like him back and he’s just waiting for a sign that you have feelings for him before he comes out of his shell a bit. If you are into him as well and you think he’s worth the effort, go ahead and ask him out. You never know what might happen.
Vanessa Locampo is an Aussie writer who’s equally obsessed with YA fiction and pasta. Her time is divided between writing all the things, reading all the things, listening to Queen, and bopping her cat on the nose. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing and has written for sites including Hotsprings.co and Discovering Montana, and currently works as an editor at Glam. You can keep up with her on Instagram @vanessaellewrites.