Every family has their unique, and sometimes difficult, dynamics. But sometimes, there’s that one family member who always seems to be the main star in the craziness. They might try to hog the spotlight, chase attention, and control everyone around them. It’s not easy dealing with them! Here are 10 signs that someone in your family is deeply self-centered and needs to realize they’re making everything about them.
1. Their Drama Becomes Your Drama.
Although it’s normal to take on your family’s drama sometimes, it’s not cool if someone in your family is always trying to make their drama everyone else’s problem. You spend lots of time together with the person rambling on about why they’re in a bind. Yawn. They’re always in some kind of drama and coming across as a hot mess. They might even try to reel you into their dodgy situations, such as by asking you for favors.
2. They Talk About Their Favorite Topic – Themselves.
This family member always dominates conversations, talking about themselves. Whether it’s their latest achievements or why they’re so great, sometimes it feels like they’re only keen to bore everyone around the table with their stories. If someone else tries to talk about something that doesn’t involve them, they’ll quickly bring the topic back onto them or something they want to talk about.
3. They Don’t Have Much Empathy For Others.
When you’re going through a tough time, your family member doesn’t try to see things from your perspective. They might brush off your feelings, such as by saying, “Oh, that’s no big deal! Don’t worry about it so much!” or “Why are you so sad? That’s ridiculous!” You’re likely to confide in someone else about your problems because this person has zero empathy. It’s no wonder you try to limit your interactions to small talk.
4. Their Eyes Glaze Over When You Talk.
When you’re engaging in a conversation with this person, you always notice their body language cues that they’re checking out of the chat. Their eyes glaze over, they look bored, or they look around them for any kind of distraction. They’re biding their time until they can grab the spotlight again. It’s so annoying!
5. Â They Don’t Let Others Have An Opinion.
Someone who’s self-centered will value their opinions and thoughts much more than other people’s. If you express something different from what they think, they might shut you down or make you feel like your opinions are worthless. It can make talking about serious topics really challenging and downright infuriating.
6. Â They Never Apologize First.
When you and your self-centered family member have a disagreement or get into a fight, you’re always the first one to take the high road and apologize. It’s so messed up! They never seem to take accountability for their actions. It’s weird how, although they’re focused on themselves, they don’t have much in terms of self-reflection. They always focus on what others have done wrong.
7. They Leave Everyone Waiting.
This person is so focused on themselves that they don’t care much about other people’s time and energy. So, when you have to meet up with them, they’ll rock up late to the party. Similarly, they have no qualms about keeping you waiting if you’ve sent them an urgent text. But, when they want your attention, they’ll selfishly badger you for an answer. It’s so unfair.
8. They’re Not Thoughtful.
Since the self-centered person’s motto is, “Me, me, me!” they don’t really focus on other people’s needs and wants. So, when planning a family outing at a restaurant, they’ll completely forget that someone’s allergic to seafood or that someone leads a vegan lifestyle. They do what they want, and expect others to follow them. They’re not considerate of others because they’re so low down on their list of priorities.
9. They Go All Out With Gift Giving.
When it’s time to exchange gifts with family members, such as over the festive season, the self-centered person will try to go all out with the gifts they give. Although they try to make it seem like they’re super-nice, they actually do this to get lots of attention. And, they’ll hardly look at the gifts they receive, as though their gift ideas were better. It’s always a competition with them and sometimes it becomes too much to handle.
10. They Have Controlling Tendencies.
If you have a self-centered person in your family, they’re probably quite controlling. This is because they want to do things their way, so they don’t care about how other people want things done. This could cause you to feel like you’re tiptoeing on eggshells around them when doing something for them, such as a chore they want done in a certain way. It can be so stressful! They don’t consider other ways of doing things – it’s their way or the highway every time.
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