10 Ways Old Souls Need To Be Loved Differently

An old soul is someone whose insides seem to have lived eons more than their outsides. It’s impossible to love someone like this with half of your heart—you’ve got to be all in, embracing every aspect that made you fall in love with them in the first place. Here are 10 different ways you can love your old soul differently:

  1. Get ready for a ride. It’s easy to know an old soul when you see one. They generally have a spark in their eyes that declares “I’m special—know that I’m different.” There’s a chance this person may shatter your heart to bits, but that’s only because you’re going to fall hard and fast. It’s impossible not to, so buckle up and get ready for a ride. This old soul is going to teach you what wild love is all about.
  2. Prepare yourself to learn. All relationships are opportunities to learn more about yourself, the world, and love. Although all relationships offer amazing learning opportunities, a partnership with an old soul will blow your other experiences out of the water. To truly be with your lover with all you have, lean into the learning that arises. It may be uncomfortable and scary, but you’ll leave as a better person.
  3. Amp up your romanticism. Old souls are known to be die-hard romantics. Go out of your way to be a cheesy romantic to easily capture their heart. They’re super lovey-dovey and swoon over romantic gestures. But, don’t make the mistake of buying a simple bouquet of flowers. Old souls pine for romantic gestures that have a lot of thought put in them–like thrifting their favorite brand of vintage shoes. A well thought-out gesture will land much better than any old box of chocolates.
  4. Challenge them and be ready to be challenged. The thing about someone with a soul older than dust is that they’ve lived many lifetimes. They’re wise as all hell and as a result, are never satisfied with stagnation. Your partner will want you to call them out when they’re wrong and you can definitely expect them to do the same with you. Not much gets past them and as a result, you’ll regularly be challenged. It’s totally worth it.
  5. Embrace them in all their weirdness. You’re only going to do well dating an old soul if you can keep an open mind and don’t get embarrassed easily. After all, your lover is someone who could care less what others think. They’re more than happy to wear polka dots with stripes or to dive deep into a book that may seem reserved for a grandparent. Their interests, hobbies, and ways of being are quite unique, but that’s one of the reasons you love them anyway, right?
  6. Maintain your sense of curiosity and wonder. One day your eclectic lover is going to have their new deck of tarot cards spread all over the floor. A few days later their nose will be covered in their fresh set of oil pastels. There will always be a new surprise with your old soul. Be sure to regularly show support for their new endeavors. It’s crucial to maintain curiosity and a childlike sense of wonder otherwise you’ll never keep up with your explorative lover.
  7. Know that your partner is a walking paradox. Your lover is intense af, always wanting to have conversations about feelings, hopes, and dreams. At the same time, they’re the first to be super silly, telling you to stop acting so serious. They have tons of character traits that seem completely contradictory, but that’s just who they are. You can love them best by embracing the paradox they are whether you understand it or not.
  8. Accept that your partner will depend heavily on their feelings/instincts.You may be surprised during your first fight when your partner tells you they just “have a feeling” about something. They can’t really explain it, but they can feel it in their body. You’re likely used to logic and visible evidence, but your beloved old soul is a visceral being. You’ll have to grow to trust them and learn to speak their language. They speak the language of feelings, body sensations, and instincts.
  9. Get used to sensitivity.Hypersensitivity is an old soul’s M.O. They’re easily influenced by the world. Feelings erupt like earthquakes. Sensations are like tsunamis. Sometimes their thoughts ripple through like tornados. They’re deeply sensitive beings. It’s important to get accompanied to this quickly otherwise you’ll never survive the waves coming your way. The sensitivity of their soul can be a really beautiful thing once you get used to it.
  10. Let go of any and all expectations.You may think that because you’ve been in relationships before that you know what to expect in this one. Well, you can throw all old ideas away. While there are certain things that are true for all lovers and certain expectations are true for most old souls, there are even differences within what each old soul wants and needs. Prepare to have all of your ideas of love and couplehood obliterated. This love will blaze new paths.
Ginelle has been writing professionally for more than six years and has a bachelor’s degree in digital marketing & design. Her writing has appeared on Birdie, Thought Catalog, Tiny Buddha and more. You can follow her on Instagram @ginelletesta, via her Facebook page, or through her website at ginelletesta.com.