The 10 Worst Reasons To Sleep With A Guy You’re Not 100 Percent Into

Sex is supposed to be fun for everyone involved. If the man is the only one having a good time, then something has gone terribly wrong. That’s why you should really think through your reasons for sleeping with a guy before you go ahead and strip off all of your clothes. After all, you should only have sex when you’re in the mood for it. If you’re doing it for any other reason, then you might want to rethink your decision.

  1. Because you feel obligated. If a man pays for your meal or buys you flowers, it doesn’t mean you’re required to sleep with him. He didn’t have to spend money on you, just like you don’t have to jump into bed with him. Even if you’re dating a guy, you don’t need to have sex with him every time he asks for it. Only do it when you feel like it.
  2. Because you don’t want him to leave. Sex isn’t going to convince a man to stick around. If you’re worried that your crush or boyfriend is going to leave you, then don’t sleep with him in order to change his mind. Nine out of ten times it won’t work, and even if it does, you deserve better than someone who’s only interested in sex.
  3. Because you want to lose your virginity. Even if everyone around you is sexually active, it doesn’t mean you need to be, too. Everyone moves at their own pace. That’s why you shouldn’t sleep with a random guy in order to get the event over with. Losing your virginity will feel much more special if it’s with someone you actually love.
  4. Because others are pressuring you. If your friends are excited that a hot guy is into you, don’t let them pressure you into sleeping with him. If you don’t want him, then try to set one of them up with him instead. Bragging rights aren’t more important than your dignity.
  5. Because you feel ugly. Having sex with someone might boost your confidence temporarily, but as soon as you go to sleep alone, you’re going to go right back to feeling self-conscious. You need to realize that your beauty isn’t determined by a man’s opinion of you.
  6. Because you don’t want to stop him. It doesn’t matter if you’re straddling him while your breasts are out. If you decide you want to cut your make-out session short, then do so. You don’t owe him sex, just because you got him hard. He can get rid of his blue balls by himself.
  7. Because you want to make your ex jealous. If it’s your mission in life to make your ex jealous, you can accomplish your goal without sleeping around. Posting sexy pictures on Instagram or flirting with a guy in front of him will do the trick. You don’t have to have sex in order to make him miserable.
  8. Because you feel bad for him. If a man tells you a sob story about how he’s still a virgin, or about how his dog died, you don’t have to sleep with him to cheer him up. Give him a hug and buy him a beer. It’ll work just as well.
  9. Because you want revenge. If you’re mad at your friend, don’t sleep with her brother to piss her off. Don’t sleep with anyone’s boyfriend, either. You don’t want to ruin your friendships over one night of sex.
  10. Because he’s hot. Okay, sometimes this is the best reason to have sex with a guy. But if there are red flags, like the fact that he won’t hang out with you in public or that he has on a wedding ring, then his hotness shouldn’t overshadow them. Consider him off limits.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.