12 Reasons Being Part Of A Couple Is Overrated

Every couple started out as two singles. Suddenly holding hands with someone doesn’t make you better — it’s just a life change. Here’s why being part of a couple can be overrated at times:

  1. Couples get just as bored. I remember sitting at home alone on a Friday wishing I had a date. Guess what? Couples get just as bored. They act like they’re always so busy, but honestly, they don’t know what to do all the time. Most of the time, they’re just hanging out watching TV or going back and forth trying to figure out what to eat.
  2. They’re not lovey-dovey all the time. Don’t let the PDA fool you. In private, they argue, do some extremely disgusting things and pretty much act like any single person when they’re staying in for the night. It’s not pretty, but that’s coupledom for you. Yeah, not really sounding superior are we.
  3. Even couples want to be alone. Couples make you think being alone is a horrible thing. What they don’t tell you is they want time alone too. All that time together gets old after a while and they just want a few minutes a part. At this point, they’re envying you.
  4. They’re not love experts. Did I mention I hate couples who think they’re experts on everything love? I don’t see a diaper or arrows anywhere. Nope, I’m not a love expert. Neither are any other couples. They got lucky and found someone. For all you know, they might not even be in love.
  5. Commitment doesn’t trump being single. I don’t get why committing to a person makes you suddenly better than a single person. Singles are committed to their jobs, friends, family, etc. You understand commitment just as much as any couple.
  6. Couples lose some freedoms. My single friends laugh at me when I have to consult my boyfriend before making plans. It’s just one of those things couples do. We gain a partner, but lose some of our freedom to do whatever we want. Singles have it lucky in that department.
  7. They miss what you have and vice versa. You want to be part of a couple and couples miss the thrill of being single. I guess it’s the you always want what you don’t have issue.
  8. There’s equal responsibility. Keeping a relationship alive versus leading a single life is no real contest. They’re both equally hard. Hell, look at what singles have to put up with from couples. Whether you’re single or coupled up, you’re still trying to live your life and be happy everyday. There’s no differences.
  9. It takes work to be single too. Couples usually assume every single person wants to be with someone. That’s not true. Some people really do want to stay single. That takes just as much work as finding the right one. Of course, if you’re single and want to find love, it’s just as hard to find someone as it is to make a relationship work.
  10. Couple doesn’t equal more mature. Put two immature people together and you just get an immature couple. I have some married friends who always seem to think they’re more mature than the rest of us. Not true. Single doesn’t equal immature. It’s all in each individual’s personality and choices.
  11. Monogamous sex doesn’t make you better. My guess is your couple friends had plenty of partners before they settled on one person. Why are they suddenly better because they like hooking up with the same person all the time? They’re not. Whether you’re sleeping with one person or 20, it doesn’t matter.
  12. They could break up at any time. While couples are busy interfering in their friends’ lives, they’re neglecting their own relationship. I remember being preached to by couples when I was single. None of those couples are still together. I guess their superiority complex got in the way of love. Honestly, couples aren’t guaranteed forever and they could honestly fall off their pedestal at any time.
Crystal Crowder is a freelance writer and blogger. She's a tech geek at heart, but loves telling it like it is when it comes to love, beauty and style. She's enjoys writing music, poetry and fiction and curling up with a great book. You can find her on Twitter @ccrowderwrites or check out her other writing on Medium.