19 Reasons Dating An Older Man Is So Rewarding

While the idea of dating an older guy may make you skeptical when you’re in your teens, by the time you’re in your twenties, it starts to seem like a great idea for many. After all, 25-year-old dudes are just that: dudes. A man who’s five or 10 years older is well on his way out of this immature man-child phase and tends to be in a much better place for a relationship. Never considered dating an older man? Here’s why you should.

  1. An older man probably has his act together. Not only does he have his act together because he has to — he’s an adult with serious responsibilities, after all — but because he wants to. He’s truly embraced adulthood.
  2. He has a career instead of a job. There’s nothing wrong with having a job, but someone with a career means is more ambitious and goal-orientated. It might just rub off on you.
  3. He knows what he wants. An older man can make decisions and stick to them more than a younger one. He’s also not scared to go after what he wants. He knows that if you snooze, you lose, and he wants to take advantage of every moment.
  4. He knows who he is. By the time you get into your 30s, you know who you are, and even more so once you’re in your 40s. A man who has a firm grasp on that isn’t just confident, but sexy.
  5. He’s financially secure. Not that you need a man with money, but it’s nice knowing that you’re dating someone who won’t have to borrow $20 from you to pay his electricity bill at the end of the month. This is definitely one of the best parts of dating an older man.
  6. He’s done playing games. Sure, games are fun, but then they get boring, and who needs the drama? Older men are done with them, and when you’re finally done, too, the older guy will be there.
  7. He doesn’t have roommates. Think about all the places where you can have sex without having to worry about being walked in on! Not to mention his apartment is way better… as in, no Ikea furniture.
  8. He has more life experience. All those years contribute to a worldly human being who can spice up your life with both stories and advice. It’s important to have a partner who can offer something you don’t already have in your life.
  9. He actually knows where your clitoris is. While saying ALL older men are killer in the sack is a sweeping generalization that shouldn’t be made, most of them are. An older guy will know where the important buttons on your body are and just how to push them.
  10. He knows what a real date should entail. While an older guy isn’t necessarily going to be opposed to watching Netflix and ordering in, he does know what a proper date looks like. You know, a meal that doesn’t come out of a delivery box.
  11. He can hold a conversation with your parents. All that confidence that comes with age means your older guy can totally win over your parents. Life experience has made him one hell of a conversationalist, too.
  12. He respects your friends. This isn’t to say younger guys don’t, but as people mature, a general respect for humanity comes into focus that younger people sometimes lack. Of course, this means he respects you.
  13. He’s not scared of sharing his emotions. In fact, he’s willing to talk about their thoughts and feelings without you begging him to do so. Shocking, I know.
  14. He has a greater appreciation… for you. An older man values things more than younger guys. It’s probably because he understands just how rare it is to find someone great in this world.
  15. He’s more accepting of your imperfections. While a younger guy is still pinning his hopes on dating a supermodel, an older guy is over it. He knows there’s more sexiness in being real than in being airbrushed.
  16. He’s not likely to give up too easily. Because he values you, he’s willing to fight to keep you. An older man doesn’t usually love with one foot out the door, as his younger counterpart is sometimes guilty of doing.
  17. He listens. Not only does he listen, but he remembers what you say.
  18. He’s not afraid to discuss the future. In fact, he embraces the idea of talking about the future, and if he’s not in it to win it, then he can say so. An older man doesn’t beat around the bush.
  19. An older guy just gets it. He has a greater insight into your concerns, fears, and what you’re looking for in life. He wants to be your friend and your lover, and he’s willing to work through any issues. And while he may not all look like George Clooney, he probably has that older man charm that you just can’t find in boys under 30.
Amanda Chatel is a sexual health, mental health, and wellness journalist with more than a decade of experience. Her work has been featured in Shape, Glamour, SELF, Harper's Bazaar, The Atlantic, Forbes, Elle, Mic, Men's Health and Bustle, where she was a lifestyle writer for seven years. In 2019, The League included Amanda in their "15 Inspirational Feminists Every Single Person Should Follow on Twitter" list.

Amanda has a bachelor's degree in English and master's degree in Creative Writing from the University of New Hampshire. She divides her time between NYC, Paris, and Barcelona.

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