Step Away From The Boyfriend: 8 Reasons Space is Necessary in a Relationship

Step Away From The Boyfriend: 8 Reasons Space is Necessary in a Relationship ©iStock/Bymuratdeniz

While there’s nothing wrong with wanting to spend a lot of time with your boyfriend, it can be overkill if portioned inappropriately. When we get into a serious relationship, we often tend to shift our priorities and suddenly become less available to the rest of the population. We become too comfortable and sometimes even clingy in our relationship, which is why we need to make sure that we still leave room for the other people and things in our lives. Balance is key. Having space once in a while is essential to ensuring that you are still you – and here’s why.

  1. You have to maintain connections with family and friends. Before you met your boyfriend, don’t forget that there were other people in your life who came before him. Your friends and family will stick with you, boyfriend or no boyfriend. Do not abandon them and become too distant. Your universe shouldn’t revolve around your boyfriend.
  2. Both of you need hobbies outside of the ones you share. Remember when you used to run? What about those Tuesday night yoga classes? Try not to get so caught up with your relationship that you stray from your passions. Your passions in life are a part of who you are, and you don’t want to lose that. 
  3. You can’t forget who you were before. I’m not saying you should get completely wasted, dance on bars and make out with random guys like you did in your single days. However, you should still go out and have a girl’s night every so often. Get a little dressed up, hit the town, and enjoy yourself WITHOUT him on your arm. Just because you have a boyfriend doesn’t mean you’re on house arrest. 
  4. You shouldn’t lose “I” in all the “We”.  It’s hard not to lose ourselves when we’re in a relationship. Love often makes us do silly things and tends to place rose-colored lenses on everything. We can easily get caught up with the infatuation of our partner and forget who we are when we’re not with them. Try not to lose yourself. Always remember who you are as a person instead of just a girlfriend. 
  5. He needs time to miss you. As we know, men love the chase. They don’t want to constantly be nagged or bothered, which is why space is a good thing for the both of you. Let him do his thing, and he’ll come to you when he’s ready.
  6. Too much time together can lead to unnecessary fights. Every couple gets into their tufts. You can’t always agree on everything and sometimes, being all up in each other’s space 24/7 can lead to unnecessary bickering. When you take a step back, you can keep your composure and not lose it over the little stuff.
  7. You’ll have time to reflect on the relationship. A little bit of distance goes a long way. Having some space allows us to reflect on the relationship in both areas of good and bad. We can observe what works and find solutions to the things that don’t. All relationships are a work in progress and being able to see the big picture allows for growth.
  8. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Getting some space could remind you just how much you love and appreciate your boyfriend and vice versa.
Lindsey is a Digital Advertising Professional and Freelance Writer based in New York City. In her spare time, she enjoys running, traveling, and drinking ridiculous amounts of coffee. Follow her on Twitter @lindseyruns