11 Signs He’s One Of Those Guys Who’ll Get Bored Once He Has You

11 Signs He’s One Of Those Guys Who’ll Get Bored Once He Has You ©iStock/BraunS

The sad truth is that some men don’t want a catch — they only want the chase. You don’t deserve to be just another pawn in someone else’s game, so if you think you’re falling head over heels real fast and notice any of these 8 red flags, get out while you still can. Here are some signs this guy will get bored with you once he has you.

  1. The more you play hard to get, the more interested he seems. The second you blow him off, he’s banging on your door — but when you show him a little interest he’s nowhere to be found. You don’t have time to be the mouse in his cat game.If he blows you off the minute you pay him any attention, don’t bother sticking around for the next time he feels like chasing you.
  2. He plays you hot and cold. One minute he’s all over you and the next you’re out of sight, out of mind. Your whole relationship is on his time. He decides when he wants you around and when you can feel free to leave. He’s in charge and you’re the puppet. Ugh, no. Get out of this circle of hot and heavy to freezing cold before it’s too late.
  3. He has no interest in settling down. The guy who loves the chase certainly doesn’t love commitment — shocker! — so if every time you try to have “the talk” he shoots you down, he might only be interested in the chase, not the catch.
  4. He doesn’t want anyone else to have you, but he doesn’t want you either. He loves the fact that you have a lot of options because he feels like the top dog when your attention is on him. What he really loves is the competition. The second another guy looks your way, he’s fighting for you. That might sound exciting, but just remember when the only interest you care about is his, that’s when he no longer cares about you.
  5. He wants to have his cake and eat it too. He wants you all to himself, but he also wants his freedom. Since he’s technically single, hooking up with another girl wouldn’t be cheating. He chases you until he gets you into bed and then he feels like he finally won.
  6. It’s too damn easy to bruise his ego. His confidence depends on how many women he can catch and release. The single life is like a drug to these men, and the chase is their very own high. The fact is that you’re in control of his confidence. When he gets you into bed, he feels good about himself, but the only way to feel even better is to leave you behind and move on to his next victim.
  7. He’s not sure about what he wants. If he doesn’t know what he wants, it’s pretty obvious he doesn’t really want you. What he likes is the chase, but when it comes to serious relationships, he can’t admit that he’s just not interested.
  8. You think he’s playing mind games. Listen to your intuition. You’re already wondering if he finds more thrills in chasing you than being with you. So why are you still with him? If you think he’s playing mind games, he probably is. Beat him at his own screwed-up game by no longer allowing yourself to be a player. He’ll move on to someone else, and you’ll be better off without him.
  9. His past relationships have all had short sell-by dates. When the topic of exes has come up, it’s clear longevity is not one of his strengths. Even if you don’t know the specifics of his previous breakups, it doesn’t take rocket science to see that he got bored and the same would likely happen once he has you.
  10. He has a wandering eye when you’re together. He says he’s all for you, but you still catch him checking out the waitress at the restaurant or smiling a bit too flirtily with the barista when you grab a coffee. He can’t even give you his 100% before you’re even an official couple, so why would he suddenly change if you were in an actual relationship?
  11. He’s admitted that he gets bored easily but swears he wouldn’t with you. If the words “I get bored really easily” come out of his mouth, run. As amazing as you are, you’re not an anomaly. He’s not going to suddenly become dedicated and permanently interested once you’re his girlfriend. You’re better off moving on now.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

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