9 Signs You’re Not Anti-Social, You’re Just Comfortable Being Alone

You have lots of amazing friends and you’re all about having a great time with them. However, you’re also just as cool with flying solo and doing your own thing every now and then. While some might mistake your penchant for being on your own as a trait of being antisocial, the truth is that you’re just comfortable being alone. If only everyone else could say the same!

1. You have no problem turning down social invites, but you’re just as happy going out.

You love grabbing happy hour drinks, getting brunch on Sundays, and going to see a movie with a friend. However, you also have no problem saying no to social invites if you’ve had a long week and you just need some downtime to chill. You don’t necessarily prefer one over the other — it all depends on what’s going on in your life at the time and what the activity is that’s on the table. If there’s an opportunity for a good time with your closest friends, you’re (usually) there!

2. You don’t need to hang out with people 24/7 to feel connected, but you value your close friendships.

One thing’s for sure — you enjoy your own company and relish your alone time to do your own thing. Sometimes there’s nothing better than bumbling around your apartment in comfy clothes, eating takeout, listening to some tunes, and partaking in some of your favorite hobbies (even if that hobby is just “watching TV while comatose on the couch”). That being said, you also make sure to schedule quality time with your nearest and dearest. They make your life a better place, and you always go out of your way to make sure they know how much you value them.

3. All the things you do with friends, you’re just as happy doing on your own.

You love socializing and you also love indulging in your richest relationship: the one you have with yourself. It’s a balance you’ve managed to master and that many others could learn from. You’re not antisocial, you’re just comfortable being alone sometimes, and that’s pretty impressive.

4. You have a great time whether you’re alone or with other people.

When you’re out and about, you’re the life of the party and always make sure to have a night to remember. That being said, you’re just as capable of having a fun night on your own, whether at home or out on the town solo. While the people you spend time with definitely contribute to the enjoyment of an occasion, you also know how to entertain yourself well enough to have a great time even if it’s just you.

5. You love celebrating special events or occasions when they pop up.

While antisocial people would prefer to be alone 24/7 and avoid interacting with other people as often as possible, that’s not the case for you at all. While you enjoy being alone, you also love celebrating birthdays, anniversaries, new jobs, and other achievements with your friends and family. In fact, sometimes you’re the one to organize the party!

6. Your self-sufficiency and independence are two of the qualities you love most about yourself.

You’re not stubborn (or delusional) enough to insist that you don’t need other people in life — while many people believe they can go it entirely alone, it’s our connections with our fellow human beings that make the journey more bearable and fulfilling. That being said, you feel confident in your ability to take care of yourself and meet your own needs. You thrive on looking after yourself in every area of life: financially, physically, mentally, etc.

7. You definitely don’t identify as an introvert.

No one has ever called you antisocial, and if you were to describe yourself as an introvert, you’d be lying. In truth, as much as you enjoy being alone and find it to be a comfortable experience, you also really cherish the relationships you have with the people and world around you. You have a lot of extroverted personality traits, and while you wouldn’t necessarily use that term to describe yourself either, you feel like you’ve struck a pretty healthy balance.

8. You don’t feel the need to fill every second of your time with “plans.”

smiling woman standing outside

If you happen to have a period in which not much is going on — no social obligations or other appointments, no work drama, etc. — you don’t feel anxious or desperate to find something to fill your free time with. Instead, you take this opportunity to recharge your social battery and indulge in some self-care. You know that spending this time with ourself allows you to enjoy the time you spend with other people, and both feel amazing.

9. You see your home as your happy place.

man alone with his dog

An antisocial people would see their home as a hovel in which they can hide away from the rest of the world, but that’s not the case for you. You see it as your sanctuary and happy place, somewhere you can come home to unwind, decompress, and sometimes even host your friends and family (you do put on some pretty legendary dinner parties). You have plenty of great memories there and look forward to making many more in the future, whether it’s on your own or with the people you love.

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Jennifer Still is a writer and editor with more than 10 years of experience. The managing editor of Bolde, she has bylines in Vanity Fair, Business Insider, The New York Times, Glamour, Bon Appetit, and many more. You can follow her on Twitter @jenniferlstill