Being Single Means Being Free To Do Whatever TF I Want And I Love It

I may currently be single AF, but I don’t plan on staying that way forever. I spend a lot of time thinking about what it’s going to be like when I leave my solo life behind and start a new relationship. Whatever happens, there are some things I’m going to keep doing even when there’s a guy in my life. I refuse to give these 12 single girl habits up:

  1. Working weekends Okay, so I don’t want to spend every single Saturday and Sunday staring at my laptop instead of hanging out with my future boyfriend, but I’m never going to stop being totally devoted to my career. When I’m drowning in work or need to get ahead, I’m going to keep working weekends a thing. Thankfully, I plan on picking the kind of guy who will be nothing but totally supportive.
  2. Happy hour with my BFFs The thought of ignoring my girlfriends for a new guy makes me shudder. These girls have gotten me through everything and are always there for me, and that’s not going to change if I fall in love. I’ll still be grabbing wine and sweet potato fries with them after work or on a Saturday night.
  3. Binge-watching to my heart’s content The best part of being single is, hands down, having nowhere to be and nothing to do… and using that free time to watch whatever I want on TV. I love a good binge-watch and would never stop watching my favorite shows just because I have a boyfriend. It’s still the best way to de-stress from a hard day at work or get cheered up.
  4. Making future plans I hope that my next relationship is one that really works for me and my life, and that will definitely mean planning a collective future that isn’t all about me. But I’m still going to make sure that I don’t get lost in the shuffle. No matter what the new guy in my life wants, I’m still going to focus on my goals and dreams. I couldn’t even imagine living any other way.
  5. Having a solid routine With no one to fit into my schedule, it’s pretty easy for me to do what I want when I want. Even if I’m scheduling dinner plans with my new BF or gearing up to meet his family for Sunday brunch, I’m not going to give up my own routine. There are things that I’m always going to do, from cooking healthy meals to working out, and that won’t ever change.
  6. Leaning on my family It’s easier to stay close to my family since I have a lot more free time than I would if I were coupled up. But I don’t want dinner with my parents or visits to see my grandma in a nearby town to disappear when I do find love. I’m never going to stop leaning on my family.
  7. Putting myself first It’s not that I’m going to totally ignore my future boyfriend or refuse to fit him into my lifestyle. I just never want to be that girl who gets lost in her relationship and doesn’t separate herself. That honestly freaks me out more than anything else.
  8. Being my own best friend Being single for so long has made me super independent and secure with myself. I’m never going to stop being my own advocate and my own BFF. Even if I share my life with someone else, I’m going to cherish my alone time. I think that’s a much healthier, happier way to be.
  9. Having super lazy Sundays There’s nothing like a lazy Sunday, and it’s even better as a single AF girl. I’m never going to give up having one day a week where I wear my comfiest clothes and don’t move from my couch for hours. Whether I’m watching a TV show or reading a good book, I need that downtime to escape from my crazy busy life. That won’t change even when I find love.
  10. Focusing on self-care It’s no secret that life is crazy busy these days. I’m not immune to getting overwhelmed with everything that’s going on from work to social plans to my love life. Even when I find someone worth dating, I’m never going to stop taking care of myself. Sometimes that means hibernating in my apartment for an entire weekend. Other times that means prioritizing workouts and sleep.
  11. Trying new things A great thing about being single is having the chance to try new things and do what I’ve always wanted to. From signing up for courses to focusing on health, there’s no end to the ways I can change my life. I’m going to keep going after what interests me, even when I’m one half of a couple.
  12. Knowing that love is not everything It’s easy to get caught up in a relationship and think that it’s the be-all, end-all of life. My time as a single woman has taught me that it’s totally possible to find happiness and fulfillment without a partner. Even when I take the leap and let someone into my life, I never want to think that I would absolutely die if things went south. I want love to add to my world, not make me terrified of losing it. I’m never going to lose this perspective… even though I definitely want to find love sooner rather than later.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.