If He Doesn’t Feel Lucky To Be With You, You Shouldn’t Be With Him

Love is all a game of luck. Women love to boast about how lucky there were to finally find a good man, but what about you? Does your man feel just as lucky? He certainly should. If he doesn’t, you might need to reevaluate your relationship.

  1. You’re one of a kind. Just like your mother has told you a thousand times, there is only one you. As a one of a kind woman, your partner should treasure you. No one has your unique beauty, laugh, or brains, and he should cherish every trait that makes you, you.
  2. You should feel lucky too. There are over seven billion people in this world and you found the one. That makes you pretty damn lucky, but you should feel even luckier to have found this amazing guy. If you love him for exactly who he is, then you’ve been graced with all of the luck in the world.
  3. There is no such thing as leagues. No person is better than any other. We all make mistakes. We are all human. So stop thinking of certain men as out of your league. The idea of leagues was invented to make some people feel better about themselves and others worse. Have confidence in yourself and you’ll find a man that knows falling for you was his greatest gamble.
  4. A good partner is a confidence boost. Being with someone should make you feel better about yourself, not worse. Your partner should inspire you to be the best version of yourself, not make you wish you were someone different or better. A good guy will make you feel like a catch a bad guy will make you worry about the other fish in his sea.
  5. Love is rare. And things that are rare should always be cherished. Being with you is like winning the lottery. You were drawn at random and saw how your numbers perfectly matched up. Just like the millions of PowerBall players realize, not everyone is a winner, just the very lucky.
  6. There are a lot of fish in the sea. Remember that any man is lucky to have you in his life. Think about how many single men there are in this world. You could be with any one of them and you chose him. That’s pretty damn spectacular.
  7. If you don’t feel lucky, you haven’t found love. Finding that special someone makes your life better, happier. So if a man doesn’t bring you joy or make you feel like the luckiest girl on earth, then you’re probably not. Love doesn’t come easy, so when you find it you’ll never want to let those winnings go.
  8. You deserve love. You both deserve true love, so treat each other the way you both deserve. No man should love you as a last resort. You should be his first and his only choice, so if you feel second best, then it’s probably time to move on.
  9. Losing you is a big loss. What would happen if you broke up tomorrow? Would you both be heart broken? Or would only one of you really care? Losing someone you love should always be a devastating loss. If he’s okay with losing you, then it’s not true love.
  10. You want a man — you don’t need one. Thrive in your independence and remember that you don’t need to settle for anything less than the best. Your partner should be in your life because you want him there, not because you need him or are afraid to be alone. You don’t need any favors, because a strong woman like you can survive perfectly well all on your own.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.