A former escort has revealed the real reason men cheat on their partners and what they really want from the experience. Amanda Goff, who was known for many years as Samantha X, has slept with hundreds of married men over the years, which gave her a deep understanding on what motivates their behavior. Now, she’s sharing her insights with women around the world.
- Samantha X would never get married. That’s probably the biggest takeaway from her time as an escort. “If you want to ruin a great relationship walk down the aisle,” she wrote for The Daily Mail. “(If you’re happily married, good for you. Come back to me in 30 years),” she added.
- Cheating is all about connection. As Goff explained, she didn’t do anything outlandish or wild when sleeping with her clients. Instead, she was just there. “As an escort, I didn’t swing from chandeliers or go to secret dungeon sex clubs (disappointing, I know),” she wrote. “The service that was requested most was the girlfriend experience – and that meant listening, supporting, and guiding.”
- So, why do men cheat? While Samantha is quick to point out that it’s never women’s fault that their husbands step out and that this isn’t the case for every marriage, she’s also seen the same scenario play out over and over again.
- They want someone to talk to. Samantha X points out that women aren’t the only ones who like to talk. “They are emotional and extremely vulnerable,” she explains. “They tell me they’re too scared to be vulnerable at home, and instead feel they need to be the ‘strong one.’ They worry they would be causing you undue stress if they whinged about their issues.”
- They miss lengthy sex sessions. While men aren’t exactly known for their love of foreplay, many told Goff over the years that they were over quickies and wished they could go back to long afternoons and evenings in bed. The lack of attention to sex leaves them unsatisfied, so they look elsewhere.
- Their wives had an affair. Women cheat too, and when that happens, many men feel like they need to get even. Or, they “see it as a green light to do what they want.” This isn’t very hard to believe!
Samantha X pointed out that affairs don’t mean your husband doesn’t love you or that they want to leave you. They’re just obsessed with their d*cks and can’t control themselves. Not exactly comforting, but it does make sense.
