What Men Notice First — It’s Not Your Boobs or Your Butt

There are tons of surveys out there (like this one and this one) asking men what captures their attention when it comes to women. The answers might surprise you — boobs and butt are not at the top of the list. In fact, the two things men notice immediately have more to do with who you are than how you look: your eyes (which reflect energy and personality) and your smile (which reflects warmth and accessibility) come first. Here’s everything, in order of importance:

  1. Your eyes. Eye contact is everything because, as the saying goes, eyes are windows to the soul.
  2. Your smile. Warmth is inviting and a smile is the best way to communicate it.
  3. Your breasts. Yes, they notice the size and shape. Nothing surprising here.
  4. Your hair. What they’re paying attention to isn’t the style or how messy it is, but how healthy it is.
  5. Your weight. They don’t need you to be waify — they’re just noticing whether you’re a healthy weight.
  6. Your posture. Keeping your head up and shoulders back signals confidence which, in turn, suggests you’re not easy to get.
  7. Your swagger. The way you walk can make all the difference between whether you come off as frumpy or sexy, regardless of how you look or what you’re wearing.
  8. Your legs. They’re looking for tone and shapeliness.
  9. Your sense of style. Whatever your taste, the way you express yourself through fashion isn’t going unnoticed.
  10. Your butt. Again, it’s all about the size and shape.
  11. Your height. Average is the best.
  12. Your skin. Oiliness apparently isn’t an issue and neither is a mild breakout. They’re just interested in a complexion that looks healthy.
Halle Kaye is the author of the insightful, inspirational and hilarious dating guide for women, "Maybe He's Just an Asshole: Ditch Denial, Embrace Your Worth, and Find True Love!"