Is He Just A Friend Or Are You Crushing On Him?

Having a solid crush on someone is a pretty distinct feeling, but when you’re a generally loving person, it can sometimes be hard to tell if your affection for someone is just because of how much you adore them as a friend or something more. Wondering if you’re developing a thing for one of your friends can leave you confused, but this is how you know your feelings are far more than just platonic:

  1. They make you feel like you’re on fire. You can feel fondly about plenty of people, but there are only a select few that will have you feeling like your whole body was zapped awake. Every piece of you feels like it’s going to burst with excitement when you’re around someone you like-like.
  2. You have a constant need to touch him. When you’re with someone you like, there may be an accidental brush of the hand or a friendly hug here and there, but when you’re with someone you like-like, you constantly want to have physical contact with him. Every time you’re around him, you’ll always be looking for excuses to touch him in some way.
  3. There will be passion. There’s a good chance you’ve connected to someone on a friendship level and thought to yourself that taking things to the next level just made sense. When you finally kissed him, it felt like the greatest moment of human contact you’ve ever experienced. If you like-like someone, that kiss will feel like fireworks, plan and simple.
  4. You’ll feel at home with him. When you’re with someone you like, you can feel elated and even have the best time of your life but nothing comes close to how you feel when you like-like someone. There’s a difference between enjoying someone’s presence and truly feeling like he’s the missing piece in the puzzle of your life.
  5. You want to do nothing with him. When you meet up with someone you like, you want to be doing something you’ll both enjoy, like seeing a movie or getting food from your favorite pizza joint. But when you’re with someone you like-like, all you want to do is be in his presence. You could be laying around staring at a wall and it’d still make your heart happy.
  6. There’s just something about him. Sometimes, you can’t put your finger on what separates this guy from the others — it’s just something about the way he makes you feel. Call it hormones or whatever you want, but there’s no denying that this man has an indescribable quality that makes you feel extra happy when you’re with him.
  7. You enjoy his smell. Plenty of us like to catch a whiff of our friends when they’re wearing a fragrant cologne or perfume. With someone you like-like, though, their natural odor is what drives you crazy. It might seem a little weird, but when you experience it for yourself, you’ll realize it’s true.
  8. He’s always on your mind. Someone you like may cross your mind occasionally, but someone you REALLY like will never leave it. It’s almost as if he’s taken up residence in your brain, and no matter how hard you try, you’re unable to kick him out.
  9. It’s not your typical crush. The very feeling of liking someone comes on without warning and often for no reason at all. Most of us have wondered if one of our friends would be good boyfriend material and maybe even considered dating him, but when you start to develop a more serious crush, it’s so much more than just a casual passing thought.
  10. You feel like you need him more than you want him. No one ever likes to admit that they need someone else, but when you like-like someone, you often can’t help it. Everything in your life is that much better with him around. When you just have passing feelings for someone, you can go about your life without feeling much different regardless of whether or not he’s around. But when you like-like someone, it can feel as though his spot in your life is irreplaceable.
Angelica Bottaro has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Trent University and an Advanced Diploma in Journalism from Centennial College. She began her career as a freelance writer in 2014, racking up bylines in The Good Men Project, MakeWell, LymeTime, YouQueen, and more. She eventually shifted her focus and began writing about mental health, nutrition, and chronic disease for VeryWell Health.

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