How To Make Your Ex Miss You And Wish He Never Left

Maybe you want to turn your ex into your boyfriend again. Maybe you just want to make him suffer for all of the pain he caused you. Either way, there are a few little things you can do to make him regret breaking up with you. These actions aren’t bitter, they’re just plain sweet. Here’s how to make your ex miss you. Whether or not you go back to him is beside the point — the satisfaction you’ll feel knowing he finally realizes he screwed up is the best. Sure, it’s petty, but sometimes pettiness can feel damn good.

  1. Look happy without him. When he sees you smiling and laughing instead of crying and moping, he’ll wonder why you’re not upset over the breakup and it will make him miss you like mad. After all, aren’t women supposed to cry into a pint of Ben & Jerry’s while watching crappy rom-coms for months after being left? Obviously not. Even if he’s a good guy who wants you to be happy deep down (and he really should be if you’re considering rekindling the relationship), your good mood immediately post-breakup will still drive him nuts.
  2. Better than that, be happy without him. You don’t want to just look like you’re doing okay, you want to actually feel that way. You should love yourself enough and have a good enough support system in place so that even though you’re sad about your relationship going wrong, you know you’re going to be just fine in the end. That lack of despair will be apparent in everything you do and say, and if that doesn’t make your ex miss you, I don’t know what will.
  3. Post hot pictures on Instagram. It’s time to show him what he’s missing. When you’re feeling your sexiest, post a picture of yourself on Instagram so he can get a good look at you. The more “likes” you get, the more regret he’ll feel and the more it will make him miss you. He’ll be like, “How did I let such a certified babe go? I’m an idiot.” And he’ll be right.
  4. Get a new haircut. If you want to be a little less cliché, you can get a new outfit or head to the gym instead. Any sort of physical change that you make will get his attention, but most importantly, it’ll make you feel like a whole new woman too. We all need to switch things up now and then, so don’t be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and try something totally out-there.
  5. Make strides in your career. You don’t have to use your prettiness to make him pay. You can use your intelligence instead. When he sees you post a status about your new promotion or sees the photo of your Master’s degree, he’ll remember just how talented you are and it’ll make him miss you. After all, who wouldn’t want an incredibly successful, self-assured woman like you? Duh.
  6. Spend time with other men. You don’t have to start dating yet. As long as your ex sees you hanging around other men, he’ll realize that there are plenty of other guys who would love to call you their girlfriend. Plus, all of those new guy friends will help you get over your ex faster. They’re proof that there are other (more handsome) fish in the sea. This is probably the easiest way to make him miss you, but just make sure all the relationships you form, platonic or otherwise, are genuine and not just a way to get a rise out of your ex.
  7. Act casual when you see him. If you bump into him at work or the supermarket, don’t run the other way. Walk right up to him and say hello. When he sees how casually you’re able to be in front of him, he’ll assume that you’re completely over him—and men always want what they can’t have. Of course, instead of working to make him miss you, it could send the message that you’re completely over him and he might think there’s no chance of a reconciliation. That’s a risk you’ll just have to be willing to take.
  8. Prove him wrong. Did your ex happen to mention why he broke up with you in the first place? If he did it because you’re too needy, then show him how independent you are. If he did it because you’re too timid, show him how adventurous you can be. Everything he criticized you about should be thrown right back in his face. Embrace all the things he believed were your weaknesses as your strength and you’ll make him miss you in no time.
  9. Ignore him. Some men think that they can break a woman’s heart and then continue to be friends with her. But if you cut him out of your life completely, which is the best way to get over him, he’ll realize that he screwed up. Then he’ll finally see that he lost more than a girlfriend. He also lost a great friend, and since those are so hard to come by, he’ll be filled with serious regret.
  10. Let your friends do the talking. If you brag to your ex about your new guy or your new car, he’s going to think you’re trying to make him jealous. That’s why you should keep quiet and let your friends do the bragging for you. It’ll make you seem both successful and modest. Is there any better combination?
  11. Always take the high road. It’s easy to throw a fit when a man shatters your heart. However, if you handle the situation like a lady and without screaming at him or placing blame, then he’ll finally realize that you’re a real catch and it’ll make him miss you. Most people can’t handle themselves that maturely.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.