Are you obsessed with finding someone? Do you date a lot and get stressed out after bad dates because you fear you’re not going to meet The One? Maybe it’s time to slow down and enjoy your single life, ’cause one day you’ll be married and regret the days you missed trying to find someone. Here are 10 practical ways you can stop wanting a relationship so badly.
1. Grow Your Social Circle.
Take the pressure off meeting a romantic partner by going out and meeting new people. By enlarging your social circle, you can build connections that will last you a lifetime – your friends will stick around when romantic partners leave, remember? So, focus on forming real relationships without carrying the self-imposed stress that you have to find someone to make out with.
2. Party With Single Friends.
If you’re always around friends who are dating or married, you’ll start to feel like you’re the odd one out and it can increase your stress about finding someone. Although you love those friends and shouldn’t cut them out of your life, it’s good to hang out with your single friends so you can relish in your independence and just have fun. They’ll remind you why it’s awesome to fly solo.
3. Deal With Your Baggage — Sweetn can help with that.
If you’ve been in one bad relationship after another, it’s only natural that this is going to have a negative effect on you. If you haven’t dealt with that, how’s the time. Our sister site, Sweetn, uses science to help rewire your brain so that you can move forward in the dating world from a whole new place, making it much more likely that you’ll find success. It’s hard to focus on wanting a relationship when you’re making yourself a better woman for when one comes along, right?
4. Suss Out What You Really Want.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking you need to find someone ASAP, but why? Seriously, ask yourself what you’re really looking for and why you want to be in a relationship. For example, are you seeking support, someone to be emotionally intimate with, and so on? Once you do this task, you can move onto the next point. (Or, you might realize that you actually don’t need a relationship.)
5. Meet Your Own Relationship Needs.
While relationships are awesome, many of the things you’re looking for in a relationship are needs you can meet yourself. For example, you can become more emotionally expressive by keeping a journal and you can find support within yourself by being independent or getting support from your loved ones. Ladies, you don’t need a romantic partner to meet all your needs. Complete yourself, and you’ll be a better person – and a better partner to someone in the future.
6. Look For The Fun.
Life’s so short and you don’t want to miss the time you have right now to have fun and live your life. You’re not going to be in this stage of your life forever, so get to know the person you are and do whatever you enjoy – it’ll boost your confidence, too. Go out and party ’til dawn, create something amazing, build a business, or whatever makes you feel alive. You’ll see how amazing life is right now.
7. Run After Your Dreams.
Now’s the time for you to follow your dreams and give them your all. Use the time you have at your disposal so that you don’t miss a second in which to turn your biggest dreams into a reality. When you have relationship distractions in your life, such as a partner who’s got their own drama, you won’t be able to dedicate all your spare time to what you want to achieve.
8. Stretch Out Of Your Comfort Zone.
Your routine can quickly become a rut if it becomes boring. If you’re feeling uninspired, your tendency might be to search for the distraction of love. Instead of doing that, see what happens if you stretch out of your comfort zone. Do something different that you never thought you’d do or that scares you a little. Go sky-diving, travel alone, or take a dance class. Whatever it is, you’ll explore new facets of yourself.
9. Take A Dating Break.
Sometimes, the best thing to do if you’re obsessed with finding The One is to back away from those dating apps. Use the energy you’d put into finding someone to date into enriching your life and doing something awesome for yourself. This time away from the dating game will give you some perspective on relationships and what you want, and help you to avoid dating burnout.
10. Reap The Single-Woman Benefits.
If you’re single, you’ve got so many opportunities that you shouldn’t miss out on. If you’re not in a relationship, you don’t have to compromise, like when it comes to what you do during your vacation or on the weekends. Try to be a bit more spontaneous – think of something you want to do and just go out there and do it! You’ll see just how awesome it is to make the most of your freedom with nothing (or no one) holding you back.
11. Delete “What If?” Thoughts.
Sometimes, it’s difficult to deal with your single status if you worry that you’re going to be single forever. You might fear, “What if I never find love?” Forget about the future! Focus on the present moment and live it fully. Try some mindfulness and meditation that you can use to bring yourself back into the present so you don’t let fear control you. Another idea is to distract yourself with activities that make you feel good so your brain associates single life with awesomeness.
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