I Refuse To Date A Guy Who Doesn’t Like Opinionated Women

I’m sick of guys who want a woman to follow their lead and keep their mouths zipped. It’s 2020, for goodness’ sake, and women can be whatever the hell we want. If guys can’t deal with my opinions and self-expression, they need to get out.

  1. I won’t bottle who I am. I’m full of life, thoughts, feelings, and strong opinions. There’s no way in hell I can hide that out of sight, and why would I want to? I’m going to be who I am and if men can’t deal with that, that’s their problem, not mine.
  2. I have no time for insecure guys. Seriously, why keep myself censored when the men who can’t deal with a strong woman are the ones struggling to get with the times? If they’re insecure and lack confidence, they need to sort that out instead of being intimidated by me.
  3. I’m not a bitch, but thanks for assuming. It’s funny how the minute a woman speaks her mind, she’s called a “bitch.” It’s so messed up! It’s not like I’m fighting with men about my opinions, just taking a stand and being true to myself. It’s called being strong.
  4. I don’t have an attitude, dude. If I’m debating something with a guy and he tells me to “calm down,” that’s enough to make me want to throttle him! I’m passionate and expressive, but it’s funny how these qualities can be seen in a negative light. I want a guy who appreciates my passion and sees it as an asset, not a flaw.
  5. I’m not a “yes” girl. I can bottle up my feelings and accept what guys do and say or I can set them straight, and I’d rather do the latter. Why keep the peace just so that I can be ladylike, especially if a guy’s a jerk? No way. I’d rather be honest and real. If a guy can’t deal with me disagreeing with him or leading my own life, he’s a man-child who shouldn’t be in my life.
  6. Predictable is boring. A guy who wants a woman who doesn’t have strong opinions basically wants a boring robot. How ridiculous. I want a man who likes my unpredictable nature – I can be a great listener and supportive girlfriend but also someone who’ll give an honest opinion to challenge him.
  7. I know my worth. Too many guys think that women should try to impress and please them, but no thanks. I’m just who I am, and if a guy doesn’t like my strong, bold opinions then he can leave. I want a guy who knows I don’t need his advice because I’m going to do what I want and that I don’t need his approval because I know my worth.
  8. If he doesn’t want the truth, he’s in the wrong place. If I don’t like something in my relationship, I’m going to speak up about it, but some guys just don’t like this. They immediately think that women doing this are too emotional or bossy and I’m not here for it. I want a guy who appreciates my honesty because it’s not cruel, just real and because he appreciates knowing where he stands. I don’t have time to beat around the bush.
  9. I don’t want to be misunderstood by idiotic guys.  I’m so sick of guys thinking that an opinionated woman has no tact or sensitivity. What a myth! The opposite is actually true, it’s just that we’re misunderstood. I want a guy who can see me for who I really am instead of just writing me off as tactless.
  10. I refuse to apologize. I say sorry if I’ve hurt someone, but I refuse to apologize for being who I am, being honest, and not taking crap from guys. If a guy can’t deal with an opinionated woman, then he won’t survive long with me. He’ll expect me to be sorry for qualities I’ve earned and value, like my self-respect and confidence, but it ain’t gonna happen.
  11. If you aren’t supporting me, get out. Some might call me bossy, but honestly I just like to make things happen for myself and I know what I want. A guy who doesn’t like a strong, ambitious woman might try to reel me in or tell me all the ways I will fail. Screw that. Only insecure men do that. I’m not going to back down or stop chasing my goals. If a guy can’t support me, then there’s no space in my life for his negativity.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.