You feel stressed, anxious, and frustrated because bad things keep happening to you, but maybe you’re partially responsible for that. If you thrive on drama and chaos, you’re likely bringing conflict into your life without realizing it. Here are 15 signs your addiction to disorder is blocking your inner peace.
1. You’re Chasing Drama.
You always find the most dramatic things about situations and intensify them. The waiter at a restaurant wasn’t aloof, they were picking on you. Your boss wasn’t going through a rough time, they had it in for you. It’s not all about you! Sometimes you need to take things as face value instead of seeing a deeper meaning that just isn’t there.
2. Your Relationships Aren’t Stable.
If your relationships tend to be filled with conflict and stress, you could be drawing people to you with the chaotic vibe you’re sending out into the world. Maybe chaotic relationships seem exciting at first, but soon they become stressful. Aim for partnerships that are more level-headed and even-keeled if you want them to last.
3. You Have A Toxic Fighting Style.
How you argue with people when you’re experiencing relationship issues displays your love of drama and chaos. Maybe you resort to shooting, name-calling, or belittling people. This is bound to escalate issues and cause even more discord in the relationship. Learn how to communicate clearly and respectfully and cut the drama.
4. You Feel Bored In Calm Situations.
You might be so used to chaos that you can’t seem to chill in relaxing scenarios. The minute things stop being dramatic and driven by conflict, you start to feel bored and like something is wrong. You don’t know how to survive in relationships that are calm and healthy. To you, those qualities are a sign of relationship trouble, not happiness.
5. You’re Scared Of Feeling Bored.
You might try to take on a lot of work and many social commitments because you hate being bored, but you’re missing out on the chance to do something great in that quiet time, like indulge in some of your hobbies and passions or concentrate on yourself. Being alone and having quiet time to reflect are necessary so you can grow. Don’t let those opportunities pass you by.
6. You Say “Yes” To Everything.
If you say “yes” to everyone’s requests and invites, you could be over-committing yourself and juggling too many responsibilities. The result is that you end up losing sleep and rushing through life trying to get everything done while also sabotaging your success. It’s just too much and you end up becoming a hot mess.
7. You Turn Everything Into A Crisis.
You call your friend with “bad news” and she freaks out… until she realizes you’re talking about the dress you ordered online not fitting you the way you’d hoped and having to return it. You freak out when experiencing a bit of stress, even though it’s small and doesn’t have to overthrow you. It’s a rollercoaster for those around you and also makes you look a bit silly and immature.
8. You Focus On Short-Term Goals.
You avoid long-term planning because you don’t want to commit to anything — it freaks you out to be locked down. You’d rather focus on short-term goals, especially because you keep changing your plans or ditching them for one of your latest schemes. There’s nothing wrong with taking on the easy stuff first, but you should be able to look to the future too.
9. You Don’t Think Before You Jump.
You tend to make impulsive decisions without thinking about the consequences. You jump right in because it’s fun and exciting, but then you end up having to deal with the aftermath later, and you’re usually none too pleased with what that entails. You’re all about the dopamine rush of immediate gratification even if everyone else can see you’re making terrible choices.
10. You Hate Routines.
You’ll go out of your way to resist routines. You become restless or agitated if you’re forced to follow a specific schedule on a daily basis. However, you can add some excitement to your life without ditching your day job, you know? Try to find the fun in everyday life.
11. You Want Attention For Turmoil.
Sometimes negative attention is better than none at all. You want to have the spotlight, even if it’s for the fight you had with your co-worker or the way you treated your partner when they upset you. You don’t realize that bringing lots of negativity to the table is only alienating people rather than drawing them closer.
12. You Become A Chaos Superhero.
Maybe you thrive in stressful situations because you know how to handle them really well, so you subconsciously attract more stress to your life in order to come out looking like the hero. It’s a good idea to explore other aspects of your identity instead of defining yourself according to stress.
13. You Stay Stuck In Negative Situations.
Other people might shake their heads when they find out you’re putting up with a toxic partner or friend instead of walking away. What gives? If you’re addicted to chaos, you might resist positive changes because you’re not actually looking for solutions to your problems — that would mean a drama-free life, and that’s not what you want.
14. You’re Motivated By Challenges.
You find an extra reserve of energy when challenges present themselves. While other people stumble, you come alive and go into fix-it mode. This is why you’re drawn to chaos more than to calm experiences. The cool thing about this is that you’ll scream, “Bring it on!” when other people might be freaking out.
15. You Don’t Tap Into Your Intuition.
The problem with having so much chaos in your life is that you don’t have time to self-reflect and focus on your inner feelings. You’re totally out of touch with your gut feeling that’s trying to direct you onto the best path. Your intuition needs a calm environment in which to shine.
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