Why Consistency Is The Best Quality A Guy Can Have

I used to dream of finding my own personal Prince Charming but the longer I searched, the more exhausted I felt. There’s no such thing as the perfect person or partner and the earlier we accept this, the better our lives will be. Consistency is so much more important in a guy than perfection anyway.

  1. I want a stable long-term relationship. This sounds so basic but consistency really is the key to a long, happy, healthy relationship. Try remembering things you do consistently, whether it’s working out, making your bed every morning, or taking enrichment classes. Aren’t those things making you a better person? Knowing you can depend on a partner to show up and put the work in every single day (and being prepared to do the same, of course) can only be a good thing.
  2. Consistency doesn’t lie. Consistency speaks for itself. It won’t give off that vibe that he’s just playing you or make you worry that things aren’t right between you. A guy who’s there for you every single day, making you feel loved and special, isn’t doing so because he’s not interested in having a relationship with you. If he’s consistent, he’s committed.
  3. You’ll always find the flaws in perfection. Perfection is a facade that never lasts. It always falls away, exposing the flaws beneath. Instead of looking at this man and seeing nothing but perfection, teach yourself to go find that dependability and stability you really need. We all have flaws, but if he owns his and still works his butt off in your relationship, he’s a keeper.
  4. There’s no point in perfection if it’s the ugly kind. I’m not saying some people are perfect at having a terrible attitude but sometimes, it feels that way. What’s the point of wishing for a man who has every single quality on your wishlist if his personality is terrible or he’s an awful human being? Why would you want to be with someone you know deep down does not deserve you?
  5. Promises mean nothing if they only end up broken. A lot of guys love to make promises they have no intention of keeping in order to get what they want at the moment. The most common ones include promises of a good, happy, perfect life and promises of love everlasting. It’s all BS. When you want to take your life seriously, you know better than to be with a man who showers you with lies and promises. The proof is in the pudding, not words.
  6. It makes dating and relationships more fun. When you notice all the little things he’s consistent with, it makes your relationship extra special, like how he makes the bed every morning no matter how late he is for work or the way he kisses you on the forehead before bed every single night, even when you’re mad. These are small things that often go unnoticed, but they’re consistent and important.
  7. Consistency has no words—you’ll just see it. I’ve never met a person who promised he will be consistent in taking the trash out, but I have met one who just did it without having to talk about it. We love to talk endlessly about perfection. With consistency, nobody really has to because they’re too busy actually getting out there and doing it. It’s kind of refreshing.
  8. You’ll appreciate a consistent guy way more than a “perfect” one. The moment your partner slips off the perfection mask, you’ll notice it in a heartbeat because, since day one, that idea of flawlessness was what was keeping the relationship going—and that just sucks. With consistency, you’ll appreciate it more and more as each day passes because you know you can sit back, relax, and breathe deeply. He’s not going anywhere and knowing that feels good.
  9. Consistency will teach you to be more responsibleDon’t you think it’s total crap that your partner is trying his best to always make you breakfast and you’re spending your mornings in bed under the covers? Yes, that’s bad and as shameful as it sounds, I was once that woman. My ex’s steadiness taught me to be a more responsible person and made me realize that I needed to step up to the plate to make just as much of an effort. In other words, consistency rubs off on you, and that’s a good thing.
Part-poet, part-writer, and full-blooded human megaphone of the oppressed, Tammy focuses on covering heavy topics. To keep herself sane, she also writes about pop culture, life, and anything gay. She gets by with the smell of typewriter and sound of tattoo machines.