If the idea of watching porn with your partner makes you supremely uncomfortable, you’re not alone. In fact, many women hate the idea of their boyfriends or husbands watching it at all. The idea is if a guy sees something – a sex act, a particular porn star’s body, etc. – that he really likes, he’ll suddenly be less attracted to the woman he’s actually with. Of course, this is ridiculous. Sure, death grip syndrome is a real thing and it’s possible to have too much of a good thing. However, watching some X-rated goodness with the person you’re dating or in a long-term relationship with can actually do wonders for your relationship. Here’s why you should give it a go if you haven’t already.
- It increases trust by forcing you to be vulnerable. Listen, it takes balls to tell your partner you have a daddy kink or that you’re really into gangbangs. By watching porn with your partner, you have to open up and let them know what is you like. That can be really tough, especially if you’re not someone who tends to have (and pretend to prefer) vanilla sex. Feeling close enough to your partner to let them know what really gets you going, you’re bound to build the bond and trust between you.
- It opens up your sex life to some new things. You never know what you might find while scrolling through Pornhub or Xhamster (for better or worse). If you and your partner tend to stick to missionary and doggy style, why not diversify? You may discover a position or an act that really intrigues you and that you’d like to try. No more boring bedroom antics for you!
- It allows you to explore things with your partner that you might not want to try in real life but still get you off. Look, you might not want to have a lesbian threesome for real, but watching it gets you going in a serious way. Maybe your partner has no idea to try golden showers but gets off on watching it. The human psyche is a complex beast, and it can be fun to explore.
- It illuminates some of your partner’s secret desires. This is one of the best reasons to watch porn with your partner, by far. Seeing what he’s into is bound to open your eyes in a few different ways. No matter how open you think he is about what he’s into, you’ll see a different side of him when you discover the kind of porn he jerks off to. You might even think, “Hey, why doesn’t he ask me to do that? I’d be into it!” Well, now you can surprise him sometime. It’s a win-win.
- It helps you feel sexually free. It’s way too easy to be sexually repressed as a woman, even in 2023. You don’t want anyone to think you’re some kind of wanton harlot (even though being a wanton harlot can be kinda fun). So, you bottle up your sexual desires and maybe even pretend like they don’t exist. Pardon my French, but fuuuuuuuuuuck that. Let it all out! You’ll be amazing how good it feels to let your freak flag fly. Watching porn with your partner is a good first step.
- You can show him a whole new side of porn. Chances are, your partner thinks that teacher/student or Hentai porn is the be all, end all. The problem with your standard videos is that they’re very oriented toward men. He needs to see that there’s actually porn created by and for women out there. Show him some clips like that. They’re far less degrading and tend to be a bit more realistic as well. Once he realizes that it’s not all casting couches and happy-ending massages, he might shift his thinking a little.
- It can be super hot to see your partner get turned on while watching. This is a major highlight. Seeing the person who turns you on get turned on is an aphrodisiac. If you get wet with ease when you’re in the bedroom with him, prepare for a monsoon. The sex you’ll have after watching will no doubt be pretty stellar.
